I have been taught that when I say "I'm sorry," I do so without justification. I do so without needing,or requesting, that the other person return the favor. What are your thoughts on the subject?
2006-08-31 03:50:47 · 18 answers · asked by I am Sunshine 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
FOLKS !!!!!! I'm not talking about being a compulsive apologizer. When I KNOW I am at fault, I need to apologize and correct my behavior...that's my point.
2006-08-31 04:18:56 · update #1
Well - there's a difference between saying you're sorry and asking forgiveness... saying you're sorry acknowledges that you're wrong, and that you wish that you hadn't been wrong - asking forgiveness means you want to rectify the hurt that being wrong caused to the other person.
I ask for forgiveness if I'm wrong (as well as saying I'm sorry), and try to dispense it freely.
Life is too short.
2006-08-31 03:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by ceekryt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been taught to apologize for being in the wrong, but sometimes it's hard to do so face to face depending on the situation. If I accidently bump into someone of course I apologize instantly, but for major issues such as lying etc. i will write a letter. I can explain myself much better on paper, plus I can get everything out without being interrupted and arguing in the process!
2006-08-31 10:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by sparkles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking responsibility and really being sorry for a wrong-doing is something we are taught in kindergarten. If more people actually remembered how to do this...the world would be a nicer place to live. But, greed and pride and selfishness seem to get in the way. If you truly are sorry for something you did or said, you would not have done or said it in the first place. Saying it and showing it are two different things.
2006-08-31 11:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by angel8kake 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before I was divorced, I used to apologize to my husband just to end a fight. He used to ask what I was apologizing for and most times I was stumped...I didn't have anything to be sorry for because he had started the fight and I couldn't think of a thing I was sorry for. If I said "I don't know, just to end the fight" he would stay mad. So, a time or two when he asked "What are you sorry for?", I'd answer "I'm sorry that you're an a**hole". Didn't end the fight but by golly, it made me feel good!
2006-08-31 10:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Cyndie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's sincere,then i think it's quite all right.
i say it when ever i pass through a line to get too another line or whenever i pass in front of someones view or when i need someone too repeat their last statement,or anytime i feel like i am being intrusive to someone Else's space and when i am just outright wrong.
i just think your trying to be considerate and that in my opinion is getting pretty rare these days.
don't ever be afraid too apologize if you feel that it's necessary and appropriate then do so.
2006-08-31 11:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by lesdrake2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely try to say I'm sorry, and ask for forgiveness when I've done something wrong or hurt someone's feelings by accident. I try to take repsonsibility for my actions, especially when things turn out all wrong and I've hurt someone's feelings.
2006-08-31 11:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by Char 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom expected me to say "I'm sorry" for everything; I had to cure myself of that. I apologize only when I feel bad for what I've done.
2006-08-31 10:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"If your going to say sorry to someone, give the person more than what he/she expects by looking at him/her in the eyes while you say it..."
Actually, it depends on what I did. I'd gladly pay for damage I've done to a friends phone, but I won't offer myself as a slave for eternity if I did something wrong.
2006-08-31 11:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by zack_falcon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have this problem too! i think it's just being submissive to the other person...i have a tendency to think that everyone else's needs are more important than my own. i guess we just have to learn that we don't ALWAYS have to say we're sorry unless we screwed up big time!
2006-08-31 10:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a good philosophy. I have a friend who, instead of saying she's sorry, likes to list all of her excuses. Makes me crazy.
2006-08-31 10:57:21 · answer #10 · answered by Curious in Seattle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋