Did your mother die when you were a child? How did you survive and cope and recover?

Question

I just want to know about others who have the same experience. Today I don't feel like talking...I want to hear your answers...tell me what happened after her death...did you turn away from God...Do you feel damaged now? Are you emotionally well?What would you like to know about your mom? What do you want to say to her?...life would be so different if you could stroll back into her life and say "Hi mom, what have you been up to today?"...OMG

Answer 1

Where do you people come up with these questions?I just clicked on a question about love and got so confused,I stated I was getting the hell off of this site.I seen this question while getting off.Seems like I'm stuck right here.
My Mother died when I was 15 years old,my Dad died a short time later.I am very tired right now and will try to answer this question in the morning if it is still open.
Good morning.
After her death,I dropped out of school and stayed with my brother,and yes,I stopped going to church.I do not feel any damage from her death.I am not emotionally well due to a traumatic brain injury I received 6 months ago.I would like to know if she knew I loved her.I would like to tell her I'm sorry for being a rotten kid and giving her so many heart aches.
To sum it up:
I really dont miss her,because I never really got to know her.I do know she loved me,she had cancer and was very sick from the time I was 13 years old.She was a Christian woman and loved the Lord with all that was in her.
My heart is heavy.

Answer 2

No...but my father died when I was 3 mos. away from 4th b-day; I never knew him personally, and had only seen him in pictures. During that time, there was no feeling of sadness, no emotions to express, since I didn't know much about was going on, and don't remember much of the past. My father's sisters, and some relatives would often tell me good things about him. I guess, my life would've been different had he not died. I probably wouldn't be where I am now. When I got older or became an adult, that's when I began to have a temporary feeling of sorrow whenever I think about him.

Answer 3

Wow, you just got my brain rolling. My Mom didn't die when I was a child, she took her own life when I was 27 yrs. old. Me and my son who turned 5 the day he found his Mema on the floor of her bedroom, we lived with her. She did this because she could not handle the death of her own father 2 months prior. We had never had a death in my family all the years I was growing up. But when my Grandfather got Leukemia and died at the age of 78 my Mom couldn't handle him dying . She was very close to him. I'm not making excuses for her, mind you , I'm just trying to explain her actions. I don't think she thought about what she was doing and how it would affect the rest of the family. Especially Myself because after she did what she did my Grandmother blamed me for her death and things were never the same. I think I would just want to ask her Why? I'm still not over her and it's been 14 years.

Answer 4

I have never experienced losing my mom but my mom lost her mother when she was 15. To this day she still talks about her. The only thing that really gets me is that I never got to meet my grandmother. I want to know what kind of person she was and if I represent her in any way. The only thing that I can recommend is to talk about the good things and moments that you shared with her. think about when you went to the park with her or when you first told her that you started your period. It always helps to remember the way that her hair smelled and the way she did her makeup when she went out to dinner. I am sorry for your loss. I can connect with you in the sense of what you would say. I would say something like I wish things never would have happened the way they did and hope that she would remember me. She is looking down from the heavens and leading you in the right direction that she believes that you should go, If you dream about her listen to what she says it will help you to cope with this terrible loss. Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 5

No. All the best my friend. Be strong and live your life to the fullest everyday. If your mother was still alive she'll want that.