Just because a nice guy doesn't mistreat a woman, why does that make him "boring"? Does that mean that abusers are "exciting"?
2006-08-31 03:16:26 · 15 answers · asked by mike_answ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I have 6 daughters & 1 son, 4 of my girls want and have complete losers. They are all beautiful girls and that is not just a mom talking, men line up at their doors. My husband tells good guys if they want to date one of the ones that like losers, rob a bank or go to prison & #1 priority is be a drug addict & we are not kidding either!!!!
Here are just some of the wonderful qualities the current ones have:
1. Crack addict
2. Meth addict
3. No jobs
4. Physical abuse
5. Theif
6. Lives off our grandchildrens other fathers support
7. Pot head
8. Freeloaders
9. Control freaks
10. Hates us
11. Cheats
Some have more than one or all these attributes, the other 3 kids are great and have good lives, but everybody rides these 4 girls a$$'s to straighten up. At least all our kids work, but I wish they would lose these losers. And one rule we have is children & grandchildren can come home but you can't bring your loser with you, that keeps them out. I guess what I am saying is I have 4 beautiful losers. My husband is good to me no physical or mental abuse, but both of our former spouses were drug users and are abusive and we think the girls got it from not watching us stand up for ourselves in the past. We pray very hard for our children and hate to see them suffer but they are over 21 and in their own homes, although my husband has threatened a few guys.
2006-08-31 03:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please don't lump all women together. I happen to have a wonderful nice guy and married him. I would much rather have someone who would treat me well. I think SOME women prefer bad guys because its exciting and they think they could tame him. But the excitement wears off and then they probably wish they had picked a nice guy in the first place. Being a nice guy doesn't make them boring. The woman that want bad boys probably are a little more wild or want to think they are so they might think a regular everyday life is boring. Not so.
2006-08-31 03:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's amazing how judgmental a person can be. I'm not referring to your question but some of the answers. It's true that you can't speak for all women cause not all women want a rough neck. I think and this is just my opinion that most women who choose guys that are abrusive because they do enjoy the excitment of dating a bad boy and it has alot to do with their self-esteem and self-love for themselves. We all do stupid things and make mistakes and fall down in life, but God tells us that a just man falls down 7 times but even though he falls he can still get up. Not all women look like J-Lo or Janet Jackson and the pressure to be with a guy can be so great that a women feels that no other man will want her so why not be with a man who treat her bad because maybe she feels that is what she deserves. You have to look at all points in the situation. Good guys are very few and even good guys have their standard of what a woman should look like. Losses
2006-08-31 03:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's all about human nature. We always want what we can't have. When a guy is nice and available being with him is not a challenge. Bad boys play hard to get and this makes women crazy. They are enticing.
However I think in the end a lot of women do really want a nice faithful considerate man.
2006-08-31 03:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Dana R 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women - and men - with low self-esteem do. There may be abuse in their past which they have not been able to process emotionally, so they unconciously seek out partners and situations where they re-live the abuse.
This may sound contradictive, but the reason is that child abuse generates an enourmous sense of guilt which is taken into the adult life. Women and men who were sexually and/or emotionally abused in their childhood usually blame themselves and believe that this time - in the adult abusive marriage or relationship - they can make it right, they can be worthy of love and make the abuse stop.
2006-08-31 03:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not always the case! Alot of people say this, but women do like nice guys too! Mostly, it depends on the girl. Alot of women now-a-days don't prefer anyone telling them what to do or being mean to them. We also don't like someone that we can run all over either.... It's a fine line..... but contrary to popular belief, we don't want some man beating our a**.
2006-08-31 03:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abusive, unfaithful bad boys may or may not come into a relationship with that reputation, but most of the time, they have incredible charm and the power to persuade and cajole.
2006-08-31 03:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by crowbird_52 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some women are freaks and attract freaks. they thrive in insanity and drama. If I want a roller coaster ride I will go the the amusement park- i for one don't need that in a relationship.
2006-08-31 03:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because there are no "confident, healthy nice guys?"
2006-08-31 03:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
abusers are exciting because our parents would not approve and that brings us back to the sneaking around days....
2006-08-31 03:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋