Me and my husband have just had a big arugment about 2 weeks ago and in the middle of it i said that had seen that he had recieved a couple of txts form a women who i had accused him of chatin on me with but he had said he had'nt been chatin but he did say i wanna have some truth that he had told that i had accused him of chatin on me with her and the thing is that she works at the same place we both work i have now been signed off work with depression and i did say to him that half of it's bcoz of him and i have got to try and trust him all over again but the thing is i dont ave self of essteam and i think that he made a wrong discsion marrying me bcoz i dont feel that i was the rite one help me plz???????
2006-08-31 03:13:11 · 13 answers · asked by gem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust isn't somthing easy to get. Me and my girlfriend live 130 miles apart so trust is a huge part of our relationship. You can't force yourself to trust him, he has to regain your trust. Try not to jump to conclusions when you see texts from other women. It may be a work mate or something. I mean, if you're wondering just say something like. "Oh, you got a text here" or something and see how he reacts to you knowing he's got it. Don't suddenly accuse him 'cause he will feel like you don't trust him and that may actually drive him to cheat on you. Just be smart about it all and think before you act. I hope it all goes well. God bless.
2006-08-31 03:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by kahuna382000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you see a text message from a woman, casually ask him who it was from and i am sure he will tell you if he has nothing to hide. You should stop pressuring him and acting insecure. let it go. If it happens again and again and again..then you have have something to worry about. Don't EVER accuse him of cheating, don't bring up that word then he won't ever tell you what is going on because you are acting insecure. just be cool..back off. Nobody wants to be nagged and confronted and accussed. Now you feel he did not make the right decision marrying you? Why do you say that? You need to change your perspective and be strong and not petty about the text message. If it bothers you, sit down and talk about it rationally and calmy. Communication is key! Obviously you are depressed and I think you need help. Why don't you go see a psychologist and get a diagnosis to find out if in fact you are depressed. and if you are, you may need to take anti depressants.
2006-08-31 03:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very telling that you should say that you think your husband made the wrong decision in marrying you. I think you made the wrong decision in marrying him!
He is not right for you. You need someone who is going to love and cherish you. Get out of this relationship as soon as you can. Work on your self-esteem: think about things you like doing, the kind of people you like being with and build a life of your own. Then (and only then) think about getting involved in another relationship but this time, make sure your partner values you for you. Good luck!
2006-08-31 03:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by granny2006 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need marriage guidance, both of you , as you don't seem to know how to help each other. Marriage is about putting the other person first, that way you meet each other's needs and are satisfied.. my husband recently had a fling and we are getting back on track. Try the link, you will need to work together to make it work out.
2006-08-31 05:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that jealousy for woman is natural, but we really need to try to control it. I think that because he had a reason for chatting with her, you can believe him one time, but if it continues then high tail it out of this relationship quickly.
good Luck
2006-08-31 04:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by jpet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to learn how to speak english properly first.
But, if you want to be able to trust him again, you should talk to him when you're calm and instead of accusing him, ask him questions then find out if he's really cheating on you.
2006-08-31 03:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jealousy just pushes a man farther from you. Get some counseling for your depression. Godloveya.
2006-08-31 03:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do schools still offer english grammar classes.
2006-08-31 08:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical schizy woman, jealous, inarticulate, illiterate, irrational...
2006-08-31 03:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Phish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need some professional help, not just for your marriage, but for yourself. Heal yourself first and the rest will come.
2006-08-31 03:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋