just had a baby a week in half ago? first child?

Question

this is my first baby and im not use to all the crying in the midle if the night, can somebdy tell me how to get use to all of this new stuff?

Answer 1

It takes time but he/she is crying in the middle of the night for a reason. Diaper change, hungry, lonely, whatever. It gets better, trust me!

Answer 2

I know you feel like you want to pull your hair out because you feel like you don't know what to do....but it works out. I have three kids and had my first one at 17, although she was a really good baby and slept all the time...i wasnt so lucky when i had my second four years later. He had colic(i hope i spelled that right..lol) He was up crying all night long. I even called my mom cause i didnt know what to do. I was so tired, i could hardly function during the day! I know it's overwhelming but hang in there, it gets better. Know is the time your patience is being tested. If the baby is crying and you have fed and changed him/her....it doesnt hurt to take a minute to clear your mind and take a sanity break while the baby cries for a minute. You'll do fine, your a mom now...and we are some of the strongest people in the world!!!!

Answer 3

I totally understand. I had my first 7 months ago. And I am alone with her. The sleep deprivaton takes a toll. I don't care how happy you are about your lil one. Don't let all the answers about "it's your job" get to you. Those answers don't help. Perhaps this will....I actuall found a 'sleep program' on line that has a money back guarantee. So far it has been the best investment I have made. I highly recommend it for any age!! Wish I would have found it earlier. My baby and me would have been happier from the get go! Go to www.SleepSense.net Good luck. Believe me when you both are able to sleep thru the night again, life is good again!!! :0)

Answer 4

I have three, (6 years, 20 months, and 6 weeks). I can tell you, you don't get used to it.......ever. BUT, there are ways around it. If the baby has a clean diaper, fed, burped and is just fussy, it is perfectly okay to step away for a few minutes and regain your composure. It will not hurt the baby to cry. Also, if the baby cries continuously maybe talk to the dr about gas drops or possibly changing formulas, if he is on formula.

Get as much sleep as possible also. Sleep in the day with the baby if you can. It makes the middle of the night a lot more tolerable!

Answer 5

In the first couple of weeks, it is really helpful to have someone there to support you - your husband/father of the baby, your mom, sister, friends. When they offer to help, take advantage of it!! And it is the truth what people say, when the baby sleeps, YOU sleep! Don't worry about cleaning the house or cooking or any of that. Put friends and relatives to work when they come over doing that kind of stuff. Anyone who has been through it before would offer to do that anyway. It WILL get better as you and your baby get to know each other (and you will learn how to sleep in 3-hour increments). Congrats and good luck!!!

Answer 6

The baby is in a new world and is trying to get use to not having you near him 24/7. It's difficult for him/her. He's spent the first 9 months of his life inside your body listening to your heartbeat, hearing you talk, loving the comfort & confidence it gave him. Now he's on his own. It's pretty scarey for him.

This is the life of a new parent. You'll have to get your life adjusted to it.

Here's something you can do:
Get a snuggly or baby carrier that you wear either on your front or back. Wear your baby all the time that you can. If you can't get one of those things, make one with a long sturdy scarf or small blanket. Wrap it around your neck, under your arm and back around your neck/shoulder. Tie it at the neck or behind your back. Slip your baby into the loop and make sure he's secure and tight against your body.

Best wishes to you.'

Answer 7

PLEASE EVERYONE, CHECK HER PREVIOUS QUESTIONS BEFORE ANSWERING THIS GIRL!!!!!!!

I did have a nice answer for you, but after reading the other answers on here, I checked your other questions. It seems to me that you and someone called 'brownsuga16' are asking kinda similar questions and your questions have been random too. Your closed questions gave the best answers to this 'Brownsuga16' and lo and behold, she's answered this question too. You gonna give her another best answer?

Your questions:
You were trying to conceive, then 8.5 months pregnant, and suddenly, about a week after you were trying to conceive, you had a baby a week and a half ago.
Stick to asking questions in the Adolescents' section, you'll be able to find people more on your age level here, and leave alone the subjects you don't know things about.

You did fool me with your question, I though that you were a genuine mother, but now I see that you have wasted my time, and the time of all others who innocently believe that you were seeking genuine advice.

Answer 8

yes it will take time and befor you know it you will know all the crying signs and you will be a pro at it!!! But don't put the baby in the bed with you.You might regret it later and also the best thig i found out was haveing a cradle or a bassinett beside the bed so that way the baby feels that they are close to you alos the toy that worked for my daughter was a womb bear!!!

Answer 9

You sound stressed out! Do you have the baby in a bassinette next to you? I thin it helps in the early days to be closer. Personally I did family bed, but that's a personal decision that requires a lot of set up to keep safe, but at least you can try to keep babe close by.

Some people swear by swaddling for about the first month. It calms a lot of newborns. http://parenting.ivillage.com/newborn/ncare/0,,lz_76v6,00.html

And, like a lot of other people said -- time. It takes time for you to adjust. It takes time for your baby to adjust to beingn outside in the big, cold, bright world.

Some babies cry more than others, of course. Is there usually a reason you can find?

What usually soothes your baby? Have you tried singing or crooning? Maybe you can find a lullabye tape/cd or soothing nature sounds cd or music box can help. And then in the future can be used to and can be part of a bedtime routine (will help later, too). http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/104-9139664-3554354?url=search-alias%3Dpopular&field-keywords=lullabye&Go.x=10&Go.y=15&Go=Go

Best of luck, and for your own sanity -- nap when your baby naps!

Answer 10

It's called DADDY!!!! LOL... When it got to the point I thought I was going to break I would make my husband get up with our son I didn't care if he had to work the next day or not. I would literally be driven to tears sometimes b/c I really didn't know what to do. "He was a sleep fighter" that was the only time he really cried.

I'm pregnant with baby #2 right now and I told him he better be ready for some long nights b/c if I'm going to be stuck with them all day and going to try to go back to college to finish my degree then he was going to be pulling some all nighters also.

Answer 11

You don't really get used to it. It's just something you've gotta do. You don't have a choice. Be patient and calm, if it gets to you try to relax a bit. Babies usually wake up like every 3 hours at first, night or day. Eventually you'll thank your lucky stars when they start sleeping all night like the rest of us!