Is it really considered cheating on your wife if she is never in the mood?

Question

My wife gives me every excuse under the sun from I'm tired, I'm full, I'm not in the mood, I'm about to get my period, I just had my period, etc....

If I went out and started banging random women for sex, is this really cheating? I try really hard with my wife. I have just had it. I have needs too.

Answer 1

You sound very immature. Marriage is not solely about sex and if you can't handle that, you should've stayed single.

YES IT ALWAYS CHEATING NO MATTER WHAT. If you are having sex with another woman, you think it's somehow justified because you're not getting it at home? How sad.

I feel sorry for your wife. Grow up.

Answer 2

Be honest with her. I had this same problem. After being married for 20 years! All I really wanted was something a little different. I was very bad. I actually had made an arrangement, but when it came time, I couldn't do it. You see, I couldn't do it with another woman, then face my wife again, and knew it. I couldn't do anything that had a potential of hurting her (what with HPV on 80%, and Herpes on 15%).

So I approached this the way I approach every situation. I was brutally honest, I told my wife everything. My only request was that she was more responsive to me in bed, and I made her, uh, shave it. It was very hard, but once you get through to the other side, you will be proud of yourself.

Yes, it is cheating unless she gives you permission, good luck on that.

Answer 3

It's takes more of a man to stop and look at the relationship and change things. If it's dead in the water for whatever reason or reasons then step up to the plate and strike out. Don't cheat that's so immature and ridiculous.!!! DOn't be a little boy be a man. It sounds like sex was all your relationship was based on and just (SEX) can get very, very old.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! See yah do the right thing K...

P.S. The woman you are cheating with will never trust you if you happen to meet the right one this way. Once a cheater always a cheater.....

Answer 4

YES, it would be cheating. NO, you have no legitimate reason to go "banging random women". You want your wife to respond to YOUR needs without thinking about HER needs. Very selfish of you and your dick! You want to make love to your wife? You'd better start early, in the morning just hugging her and telling her how special she is to you; then bring her a cup of coffee in bed; help with the kids, pick up your dirty underwear for God's sake. Call her at lunch to say, "I was thinking about you". And then tell her you're taking her out to dinner or you're fixing/bringing home dinner. Have a glass of wine for her while she's soaking in the tub. Up to this point you should NOT be making any sexual advances. Just love her. While you're thinking of ways to be kind and considerate (and ultimately reach your goal of making love), think about your technique, what SHE likes. Think about your personal hygeine and a close shave; a thorough tooth brushing and making yourself presentable. Now if you don't get laid after all of this, let us know and we'll give you advice on finding a marriage counselor. Good luck, Buddy and Godloveya!

Answer 5

You are asking others about this? You need to tell her this but you also need to be understanding. Sex is not the most important thing in a marriage, but it is important. Are you intimate between sex? That could be your problem. If she feels unloved, she certainly won't want to do the dirty. Talk it over. Could cure it, and it could reveal some home truths. Good luck. Yes, it is cheating. If you plan to start "banging random women", get a divorce.

Answer 6

Yes that is cheating. You need to find out why your wife is never in the mood. Is she a stay at home mom? The can be stressful to.

Don't give up on her, book a nice hotel room for the weekend, get her out of the home enviroment. A little R&R is what she probably needs. (make sure it isn't period time though)

Answer 7

Go and get the book "HIS NEEDS< HER NEEDS" and perhaps the book that came out previous to it by the same author. Tell her that you want to read it together to be sure she is getting what she needs. Ask her to do the part about where you list the stuff that is most important to her in order. Then you do the same. Be sure to put SEXUAL FULLFILLMENT in the top three. Dont be too over board or it will be obvious. Remember to approach it from the perspective it is for her too. So that she is happy in the marriage. Then you ask her where she feels you are falling short and let her answer she will ask you as well then you be gentle and honest. There is someting missing emotionally for her if she keeps refusing.

Answer 8

Going outside the marriage to solve problems in your marriage is never a solution!

You need to find out why your wife is always turning you down, really talk to find out what's going on. Maybe you need some help from a counsellor. If you don't want to work on this marriage, you need to get a divorce and both move on with your lives. If your marriage is important to you, then get some help - cheating never helps!

Answer 9

cheating is cheating...How long have you been married.....You don't need to be asking us advise, you need to have a serious talk with her. Do you have children? if yes, she very well could just be tired. If not, maybe she has some form of depression....talk to HER about this situation, cause sex is part of marriage, and men do require it more than most women. But I do believe this: Men have sex to relax..Women have to be relaxed to have sex.

Answer 10

Yes it would be cheating. Have you told her how you feel. I would start there. If that didn't work I would try counseling. If that didn't work I would probably get divorced. Because obviously she is not happy and you definitely aren't happy since you are talking about cheating.