Good communication has been compromised and ofcourse our sex life is unexciting. How do i get him to be more communicative? He wont start a discussion unless l do. It is getting boring.
2006-08-31 02:55:22 · 21 answers · asked by mi2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whats wrong with you starting the discussion? Try talking at dinner time while he is awake. He probably works hard and after dinner he is relaxed and falls asleep. Maybe you should have some outside interests. Go out with some friends for some adult conversation. You say your sex life is unexciting..Make it exciting. Start something while dinner is cooking. Also when a woman has her own interests outside the house sometimes they seem more interesting to their husband. Do you do things to excite him or do you just wait for him to excite you? The man doesn't have to always be the person to initiate things. Take control and over all communicate your needs to your husband. If you think he is to tired all the time maybe he should get a checkup. He might have a health problem that makes him tired and might make his sex drive low. Remember there are always times in every marriage where things start to get a little boring. That's natural. Good Luck
2006-08-31 04:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possible causes, after work unwind drinks wearing off, big dinner with lots of carbs cause blood sugar to crash shortly afterward, the hypnotic drone of standard television. TV has a sedative affect and does not promote stimulation. So try this one- Stay off the alcohol except a glass of wine with your meal, high protein low carb dinner, keep the TV off unless there is something specific to watch. You also need to examine the work /sleep schedule. If he's getting up at 5am and working hard ,either mental or physically, his body clock will start asking for sleep at 9:pm anyway for the standard 8 hr.s. It can be be a cycle of home, eat, nap, stay up until 11:30 get up ,go to work and walk around sleep deprived. Try some schedule , diet and TV modification to cure the problem. Worked for me. An invitation to join you in bed at an earlier hour is frequently very effective in modifying sleep schedules. Take charge of your excitement level.
2006-08-31 03:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he had a full physical examination lately? What type of work does he do, and could that be the problem? Are their any personal problems between you two? Are there any other problems in his or your life that would explain this? Also, how old is he?
Since he will not start a discussion, then if you truly love him, you need to advise him of your worries about his actions. He needs to tell you about any problems that he is experiencing. Men are brought up to handle problems by themselves, and to not bother, or worry, the Family. We are taught to handle things by ourselves, but there comes a time in every man's life when he reaches a point where he can no longer handle these problems by himself. You need to help him understand that as his loving wife, you will help him with any problem! Make him understand that you are not just Husband and Wife, but that you both are life Team Mates!
2006-08-31 03:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sentinel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is middle aged and has no activities to do that would be typical for a man. But what you have to decide is if you are going to get him up and out so he can build some stamina, send him to the doctor for Viagra or give him and ultimatum? Staying in relationship just because it is the right thing to do no matter what happens is not always the right thing to do!!
2006-08-31 04:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by jpet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move dinner time earlier, and let him take a nap. As soon as he falls asleep, turn off the TV, and move the remote out of arm's length so that he would have to get up to get it again. When he wakes up, he'll be refreshed and ready for a conversation.
2006-08-31 03:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I constantly doze off first! On our first date, after he have been asking me out for months i agreed yet on account that I only have been given off a hectic day at artwork and it a touch later interior the night I only went to his abode to computer screen a action picture. i grew to become into thoroughly exhausted and that i grew to become into wide awake for consistent with danger 10 minutes from as quickly as we sat right down to computer screen the action picture. I awakened to the ending credit however the better area grew to become into that a month later he mentioned that the 2d my head touched his shoulder when I fell asleep grew to become into the 2d he fell in love with me. He nonetheless jokes that "you have been falling asleep whilst i grew to become into falling in love". So he won't be in a position to rather carry it against me now, can he?
2016-10-01 03:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is boring, start going out with your friends after dinner. when he wakes up and you aren't there the first few nights i garantee you that he won't sleep the next night. he'll be awake wondering where you are and when youre getting back. if he has the chance to miss you, he'll be more attentive.
2006-08-31 03:13:22 · answer #7 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well do you have any kids? If not, prepare dinner one night totally naked, that should catch his eye, hang a sign on your back thats say "dessert". That will give him something to look forward to.
2006-08-31 03:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad was the same way all u have to do is find something he likes and roll with it , like going to the bar have dinner and a couple of drinks. or start going on dates.
2006-08-31 03:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by megan m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex before dinner.
2006-09-03 14:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by a.kam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋