im 15 and i am with a lad (17)but recently iv found im pregnant i want to keep it but he dunt!shud i keep it?

Question

iv akways wanted a baby but iv akways wanted my boyfriend he said if i keep the baby he wil leave me im so confussed :(

Answer 1

If you really want this baby don't let anyone talk you out of it. It will be you that has to always live with the what-ifs if you go against what you truly believe and want deep down. Personally I think it's rather selfish of him to try and tell you what to do, it sounds like he's just thinking about himself and not the emotional strain that this may take on you. I say that if you want this baby then you should follow your heart. Guys will come and go, but the heartbreak of getting rid of a child you want never will.

Answer 2

Sounds like he's giving you a really unfair ultimatum. If he's that shallow, he won't stick around for the long run anyway so you're better off without him (but that's not really what you asked)

If you really want to keep the baby then you should. There is assistance out there for people who have low incomes and hopefully since you're 15, your parents will help you out until you can finish school and get a job.
If you want this baby and you choose to abort because some boy told you to you will regret it for the rest of your life. You'll never stop thinking about what would have happened if you'd kept him/her. Boys like that are a dime a dozen. Stick to what YOU want and if he leaves, tell him good riddance, slam the door and don't look back.

Answer 3

It's a really early time at both 15 and 17 to be thinking about children. You need to make sure that you're doing what's right for the child and not doing it just cause "I want one". If this is how he feels, your boyfriend will probably be gone either way to be honest and you need to look at the prospect of being a single mother. Are you going to be able to take care of this child in the best possible way, while still continuing to make a better life for yourselves? Or are you gonna spend your life claiming your benefits and just scraping by, making both yours and your childs life a misery. If you have parents around then you HAVE to talk to them about the situation. They may be angry and confused to begin with themselves, but that won't remove the fact that you're their daughter. And the boys parents need to be told as well. Even if you have the abortion, it's still a huge step in your life and I'd strongly advise against doing it unsupported, so talk to an elder you can trust.

p.s Trying not to sound too negative, but You say you've always wanted a baby, but you are only 15. How long can you have wanted a baby for?

Answer 4

You don't want him regardless of what you do.....you are 15 and 17 and chances are you will not stay together anyway....sorry, but that is true.

If he really loved you, he would not ask you to give your baby up when he sees that you want it. He is going to leave eventually anyway, or better you are going to see he isn't worth it and leave.

I was in love at 15 and I still love him, he is one of my dearest friends, but he would not have acted like this.

You cannot base your decision based on this guy, if you want to keep it, you should not have an abortion. You'll regret it FOREVER long after this guy is gone.

At the very least you should have the baby and give it up for adoption, if you have the support and people to help you, consider keeping it.

This guy is just trying to get out of his responsibility and he sounds like a jerk.

It is too late to go back, and sweetie, I say this like a mom....this is why 15 year olds should not be having sex. You aren't ready for the consequences and whatever you do, this will impact you forever.

I have a friend who had a baby at 15 and everyone said it would ruin her life. That baby girl saved her life....it made her become responsible and do things for herself and her baby. She got her education, she dumped the dad and married a great guy and has a lovely home and two more kids.

This baby could make your life, it doesn't have to ruin it.

Don't do anything you'll regret for the rest of your life long after he is gone.

Answer 5

I was 15 when i got pregnant. I kept the baby. There is no right or wrong decision. You need to talk to your doctor your parents and any other family that you have then you need to go away and make your decision. your boyfriend has made his. If you decide to keep it then it will be very hard for you and you will not have much of a life. If you decide not to how will you feel about getting rid of it? Good luck with what you decide.

Answer 6

If you haven't already, go to your doctors get it all confirmed and talk to somebody about it. Get some options and have a think yourself. You really need to get some support from someone (mum or dad, brother or sister - auntie...somebody) before you make your decision though at the end of the day it is YOUR decision. Look at it in the long term, accommodation, financial support, your schooling/education, your further career once the baby is old enough to start school itself....a lot to think about I know.

If your boyfriend isn't interested and he's not offering you support then he's really not gonna be a good enough 'partner' for you (or a Daddy if you decide to keep it). I think you should go talk to somebody who knows all the options and take it from there.

Good luck.

Answer 7

I got pregnant with my first when I was 15. I never even thought about getting rid of my baby.I had my second one when I was17 and my third and final 4 months ago. I am now 20 years old married to my kids father.And yes they all have the same father. I have never been a burden to the taxpayers. I have never been on welfare. I love my 3 children very much and I have never regretted keeping them. I had the support of my family and friends. You need to talk to your family asap. But in the end you need to do what you feel is right for you and the baby.Good Luck.

Answer 8

any form of life is precious, if your boyfriend is that hard-hearted and cold to want to 'get rid of it' then he doesnt value human life as is befitting of any good kind human heart. You REALLY think you love someone like this? Does he really love you? Do you know that women are generally 5 years more mature than their peers. That means that while you may be 'ready' to have a baby on an emotional level, he is still trying to dry his nose properly. Its not easy to deal with, since we women have to tolerate men in order to ensure survival of our species. But this guy, he's quite something else, when things get hard, he'll stuff you over and THIS is clearly one example. I'm asking you from the bottom of my heart to not kill a human life, your unborn baby has a right to life, imagine you were in the baby's position and someone had to decide for you if you should or should not be allowed to live. Obviously the baby can't speak for itself, but you as the baby's mother to be have a choice, choose to let love rule your decision.
Whatever your decision, your boyfriend will not stand by you through thick and thin, he's pretty much like a candy coated worm. strip away the candy and all you're left with, is the worm. men will come and go honey, but you have to live with your conscience for all time, until you die, i know a university girl i befriended who couldnt ever shake the guilt, all because she felt her family would abandon her...there are other support structures in place (speak to the council or to someone at hospital or the samaritans).
You know, as a final word i just want to say that sometimes life is like this, you found out at an early age how hard it can be to make decision around family situations. Lets say for example, Jack the Ripper's wife knew all about his murders, should she have kept quiet to protect her husband while more and more women were being killed? I think if i was his wife it would have hurt me tremendously, but for the greater good of life beyond that family unit, i would have gone to the police so that other women's lives were no longer in danger. i would've lost a husband, but what good is he if on a mental level, he had been lost to me anyway.
Your boyfriend has already said he doesnt love you enough to put up with hard times. HOney, life is FULL of ups and downs. Today its the baby, tomorrow it can be hardship and unemployment, the next week it could be something else...what then? He is not WORTH the dirt that sticks to the soles of your shoes. Get rid of HIM. The fact that you did not immediately listen to his request means you have goodness in your heart. Keep your baby. Take care.

Answer 9

1. I think your bf is an ***, he's nos offering you any support, just being selfish. He's not a good man now and he will neve ber, so why mind keeping him, that makes no sense

2. You should follow your heart and keep your baby, you have no idea how much you will regret it if you get an abortion. Take risponsability on your actions.

3. You need to talk to your parents right away, and you also need to see a dr, you are very young and you and your baby need special care !

Good luck

Answer 10

deffinatley keep the baby you may regret getting rid of a baby but you will never regret having it because you will grow to love it and your boyfriend would too. trust me keep it. the baby has done nothing wrong so y should it suffer for the sake of keeping him happy, it deserves the right to live, imagine your parents got rid of you! Plus you want to keep it so do what you want, you WILL love this baby more than anyone else and could feel seriousley guilty if you had an abortion. your boyfriend may threaten now but he will come round to it and WILL want to have something to do with the baby, 98% of fathers change their mind after the child is born. KEEP IT
p.s. its not dangerous at all, if your developed enough to get pregnant your developed enough to conceive a baby.