my wife recently told me she may be gay. i am giving her time to figure out what she wants and i hope she will still want me. we have a lot of ay friends and know of some that end up going back to men after a long relationship with a woman. Why is this? have any of you ever done this?
2006-08-31 02:37:22 · 16 answers · asked by lost 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
comAlso have any of you ever come out to a BF/GF or husband/Wife and what did you two do? did you try to stay together? did you seperate and get back together? how did he handle it?
2006-08-31 02:37:47 · update #1
I'm bi, and have been openly bi my entire adult life, so every relationship I've had has been sincere.
I'm so sorry this is happening with your wife.
This link may help you.
2006-08-31 02:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as there have been human beings, some of them have been able to create and sustain relationships that did not conform to the social thinking of the time. Sex is not the definitive element (or even the most important) in a relationship. Caring, loving, companionship, common interests, friendship, laughter -- just a few of the building blocks. Even just TWO people can have disagreements, so a three- or four-way relationship will be more of a challenge. But if all the parties want it and are willing to try, go for it. No sense being unhappy just because the neighbors think differently.
2006-09-07 07:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ever Learn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality is a CONTINUUM! People need to grasp this point. I don't know where on the continuum your wife falls. If she feels that she is a complete lesbian and does not find you in the least bit sexually attractive, well then there's not much point in staying together, is there? but seeing as she married you, i would think she falls somewhere in the middle, possibly more into women, possibly more into men, and just wanting to explore that other part of her. if that is the case, well, you two can work out whether you are ok with her experimenting sexually just to figure out that part of herself. But the bottom line is she made a commitment to you. If curiosity is really all there is to this, then it is no different than if she wanted to be with another man.
I am bisexual, and my girlfriend is a lesbian. I have never been with a man, but I think I would like to before I die, just to explore that part of me, to see what it's like. My girlfriend is not ok with this. We're not married or anything, but I promised her that I would not sleep with a man so long as I was with her, and unless we both decide otherwise, that is a promise I intend to keep. In the end, making a commitment to the person you love is more important than exploring the avenues of sexual possibility.
2006-09-07 19:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by scruffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and I'm bisexual. I love my hubby very much, but I still have this huge urge to be with other women every single day of my life. You should hear my hubby & I out and about. He'd say Ooo look at her she's hot. Then I'd say something like Oh yea I'd like to smack that azz... We joke about it a lot, but we've never acted on it. We don't want to ruin our marriage by inviting the wrong person in. I would never be with another woman behind his back. That's cheating. How much do you love her, and what would you accept? She may have to strong of an urge not to experiment. Maybe you can try a threesome. That way you both win.
2006-08-31 13:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Q~T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this happens a lot with women. So many women are taught that it is wrong to be gay, and the only way they will ever have children is to marry a man and have a family and deny the feelings they have towards other women. At least, that's what happened to me. I am truly sorry that you are having to go through with this.
2006-09-08 01:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by Robin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've done this but will not talk about it in this open forum. I can offer you the view of the wife who left and came back. You can contact me via email if you'd like to speak more privately. It was an extremely emotional ordeal for both of us....or should I say the three of us.
2006-09-06 20:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Greywolf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just another reason why the US should just pass Gay Marriage across the board. Without societal pressures, people can be themselves, and these type of situations don't have to occur.
No one gets hurt this way.
2006-09-06 19:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want to say that Q~T sounds like the perfect woman!
2006-09-08 04:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Andre1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't really advise you there. If you think there might be something to save, talk with her about it. if she says no. move on. It will hurt both of you less in the long run.
2006-08-31 09:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if she is really gay and knows now you must let go but it could be many things so dont give up straight away
2006-08-31 10:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by elliotbuddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋