Why do women prefer abusive, unfaithful bad boys, instead of confident, healthy nice guys?

Question

Just because a nice guy doesn't mistreat a woman, why does that make him "boring"? Does that mean that abusers are "exciting"?

Answer 1

Women seem to believe that they can make a silk purse from a sow's ear. They try to change us guys, and can't understand that maybe we do not want to change. Maybe that is why they stay with batterers. They always try to make us something that we aren't.
I came home from work one day and was handed a list of about seventy ways in which I was going to change... effective immediately. I promised to make up a list for her and was told that I was not allowed to. I asked why she could make a list and I couldn't. She said, "Well, You belong to me now, don't you?" Needless to add, that marriage did not make it to the finish line.

Answer 2

Women do prefer nice guys. But by the same token they prefer that the nice guy not let himself get walked on. Set the rules. The problem with the bad boys is that they are usually good looking, know how to dress, have an air of confidence about them and they have learned how to be charming and come on as being so great. They learned this by being dogs and playing the field. Most nice guys have not learned that. Me I preferred a nice fellow, not so good looking, educated, maybe does not know how to dress. and does not know how to be charming and maybe a little shy. With good encouragement a faithful men can learn the rest from me.

Answer 3

Actually, fact is all men are confident and healthy in the beginning but become abusive and unfaithful once they start taking the relationship for granted.

Answer 4

women who gravitiate towards those kind have a low self-esteem and don't like themselves.
another reason is ego-related. i will explain: they feel they can fix the guy or take responisibility for changing him.
another reason is the going home syndrome. we tend to seek partners like our parents. if the girl had an abusive dad or one that was not present, they will seek a boyfriend who portrays the same behaviour so they can make right with him what was not right at home.
there! 3 possible explanations. all= some dysfunction. be yourself. in my book, nice guys do NOT finish last. good luck to ya

Answer 5

girls dont want to be mistreated. But if an abusive, unfaithful, bad boy comes up to your confident, healthy, nice guy and wants to beat you two up....who is gonna be the protector? Yup, thats right, the wimp will die, and that leaves who? The bad boy.

Answer 6

Probably low self-esteem. But, generally, every girl goes through a "bad boy" phase in their 20s. I did, but I am now married to a "nice guy" and could never imagine being with or going through a bad boy phase again.

Answer 7

One serious fact you have to consider is, opposites attract. This is true in many aspects and does not apply just to woman, men are the same way. What he can't fnid in ourselves, we look for in someone else. If we lack cofidence, thats what we look for in a mate. If we feel we lack the looks, we want a model to sport. This is human nature. Understanding this helps place things in perspective and can help you manage your opposite sex relationships a little better.

Answer 8

Not all of them do. Most of the ones who like the abusers over the good guys are either immature or emotionally stunted.

Answer 9

You can be both exciting, nice, and bad at the same time. Also, most women prefer sadistic men.

Answer 10

That is a good question, but I dont think we will ever know , all women are guilty of it....and I dont care how long the answers you get are its probably going to be opinions of women who are in that same situation. Good Luck let me know when you find the answer.....