Make me happy, i feel terrible (read a few words)?

Question

iam 19yrs old.

I have a brother (23) who only cares for himself. he is studying in USA, but has never EVER shown any affection toward me. i am morethan willing to die for him

I have a sister (31) who is married with a daughter, she is just as same my brother.

I have a mom & dad, who is clearly having favourites and iam clearly not one of it.

I have had a tough life thru junoiur high, One boy turned against me, and i cant even stand to remember my isolation alone in my flat, i saw them playing down the alley thru my window. i was weak, u dont know the solitude for 4 years in a streatch. mom & dad nevr listens, i told them we had to move,but noooo (dad can morethan afford a shift)....

In highschool, i thoughti was happy agin, but now highscool is over, can you imagine? i dont even get an email, not a call, all those who had told be they would be myfriends for ever has finally betrayed me


*it is really lonely being me, alone in my room, noone to callme, noone to ask a second opinio

is it the age difference?

hey coodles, iam serious.......... how can i make up something like this?

most of u made me sad,except "still standing"


thank you ever so much.

i feel like giving you a great-big-HUG!

*tears*

Answer 1

I am so sorry you are having a hard time. You have to understand that the way you are being treated is not your fault, shame on your parents for not being more sympathetic to your needs and at least offering you suppost and guidance. You have to understand that the thing with your friends after highschool is what happens. It is not a reflection of you and that no one wants to be your friend, it is a symbol of a chapter in your life that has closed. I was student body president of my highschool, I had a great many friends. I went through the same thing after school was finished. I felt lonely and alone. I did not understand why they dropped me. But they did not, they just got busy with work and college. It is a natural cutting of the cord so to speak. There is nothing that says you can't extend yourself to them and see if they have time to meet up for a coffee and to talk about life.

You need to change you way of thinking, right now you are on a down, you think no one loves you, you have no one......I can see that your life is less than what you want, but sitting in your room, feeling sorry for yourself will never change that! How about taking some classes? Getting a job? Getting a life independant of your parents and your old friends, so that you can feel proud that you are doing something on your own. Even doing a little volunteer work is great for the human spirit. It makes us see others who are much less fortunate than ourselves and helps us look inside to be appreciative of the fact that you have many things we take for granted.You have a functioning, beating heart. You have a kind, sensitive mind. You are alive. You have clothes on your back, food on your table, a roof over your head. Access to a computer, a cold drink at hand when you want..... there are so many things you could look at and be thankful for. If your parents have not given you what you had hoped to have, then get it yourself! They are human too, and we all make mistakes. Show them what you wrote, tell them you need help to change your way of thinking and the way you feel.

My heart goes out to you. I wish I could snap my fingers and make it better. You are 19! You have so much more ahead of you that you don't even know about yet! Concentrate on getting there, to your future, and using your past to be a great man. Enough rambling, you take care- and remember, You only have one life, DO SOMETHING! Hugs!

Answer 2

The best and shortest self help book I've ever read consisted simply of two pages. The first said simply "Quit Bitching". The second said "Get Back to Work".
I would not have said it so bluntly, but it is the essence of what you need to do to turn your life around.
Asking for help is a good first step. Now you need to act. Sitting alone is not acting, it is perpetuating the problem. You need to break away, get out, find a job if possible, find others who share your interests. Library, Church, local community clubs. Work on meeting others. Small steps at first, but the first steps on the journey. The trick is to start moving.

Answer 3

Life sometimes really sucks, but you have to pick yourself up by the boot straps and carry on. Cheer up pal, I have been in your situation before. Have patience, and you will get through it. There is a plethora of people all around the world who right now feel exactly like you do, the problem is you need to find some of these people. WHICH MEANS YOU MUST LEAVE YOUR HOUSE ! You will not cure loneliness by typing on a computer.

Answer 4

Hey, I am alone now in my room. My boyfriend went to work. My son went to school. I am enjoying the peace and quiet. Once you get my age, I am 52, you will want this time to be alone.
Since you are only 19, you will meet many new friends but not if you isolate yourself. Get out more and get involved in things that interest you.
And you are not alone, you came on answers to get a second opinion. We are here for you.

Answer 5

It sucks to be alone,doesn't it? I went through the same.At first,you have to learn to love yourself and to enjoy being alone.I know it sounds silly,but that is the first step to feeling better.
Second,you have to make new friends.You will achieve that by going out (if you don't have anyone to go out with,go by yourself).Go to local club,or just for a walk.If you see someone interesting,take a deep breath and start the conversation.You aren't going to achieve anything just by thinking about how your life sucks,you have to do something!As for your brother and the rest of your fmily,I'm sure that they love you very muchI am thinking you are the kind of guy who deosn't really show his feelings and emotions,right?Your brother is probably just occupied with college and has a lot of stuff on his mind.Don't take it too personal.He loves you very much.It is just that everybody is focused on their own lifes,and they think you'll be okay.You seem like a strong person,and,at the end,the only person who can solve your problems is - YOU.
As for your highschool friends,if you want that friendships "back" ,you have to work on it.That's right,you have to work hard to get your friends back.If they don't call you - You call them!
You seem very stressed out,sad and blue.But,I've learned it on the hard way.Luckly,you have people around you to give you some advice.Show your family you care for them,try to smile.Start talking with your brother and tell him how you feel.Tell him you admire him,that he is your role model,that you love him so much,you would give a life for him.Tell HIM what you've said to us.Ask him for an advice,how to act,how to survive.
Your life lies in your hands.You depend of yourself.If you want something to change,change it yourself.
You can do anything you want just by these five senteces (of course,you have to find the answer on everyone of them):

1.What is my goal?
2.Who will help me achieve it (who is a part of it)
3.How to do it?
4.How much...? (time should I spend on it,etc.)
5.Who's paying..? (with money,emocionaly ,etc.)

With well worked out plan,you can "clean up" your life a little bit.You have to try really hard to put your life in some sort of balance.
You have my support,I wish you the best luck!
Anything is posible,if you try hard enough.

Best wishes,Mia

Answer 6

Maybe you're being too gloomy around your family. Go to visit your sister and niece (take a gift for the child). Write a cheerful letter to your brother. Be happy and make them feel glad you're there. If you want to have friends, you need to be a friend. Get out of your room! You'll be OK! Help out around the house for your parents. No one will notice you if you hide yourself. Good luck!

Answer 7

You can't change your family. Accept that and let it go. You are now 19..a legal adult. While nothing ever fixes the pain of not being a "favorite" of your parents, you need to forgive them and move on with your life. Come to the USA. You will find a soulmate and start your own family. (Yes two people are a family.) Don't forget, while we you don't know who we are...a lot of us knows who the answerman is and I think you are cool. Think of us as your extended family. Take care!

Answer 8

You sound as though you are depressed. Depression is a very, very serious problem. Talk to your parents however hard they need to know what youre going through. Join a club or something....try a local church youth group they would be amazing for support...do not suffer alone. A doctor would totally be able to help you right now....it would be an excellent idea to go and sit down with yours and explain how your feeling and how lonely you are. PLEASE go and speak to somebody...today would be good.....GO>>>>>>>

Answer 9

Communication works two ways. Have you ever once tried to call someone or email someone who you said you would remain friends with? If not then you are just as guilty as the ones who don't call or email you. What about calling your brother or your sister? If you don't talk to them about it then how are they to know how you feel? And ya know what I say the same things to my friends when they complain that I don't call or email them. Communication is a two way street.

Answer 10

Go and make friends in college. Not to bring you down, but when you make friends don't tell them all these problems right away. Make sure they think you aren't a whiner before you tell them. Be happy and fun and cheerful, and one day when you are sad like right now they will be there for you.

Oh and contact the other friends...don't wait for them to contact you.