I had a childhood friend of almost 20 years. We used to do a lot of things together since we were little. We took same classes and same clubs. I knew her better than my own sister, and we were very, very close. We went to different colleges 7 years ago. She has a boyfriend, and so do I. After losing her father and facing conflicts with certain people while in college, she seemed to be the opposite of who she used to be. For example, she'd easily get angry over very petty things to the point I had to resolve with her. Anyway, we've not spoken for almost a year after her visit in the state. Since we share a lot of same friends, she told everyone a lot of "bad" things about me and she even post her blogs online about me and my boyfriend to let us know how much she hates us. She had a lot of conflicts with her family and friends in the past. I seriously think she's very crazy. What can I do?
2006-08-31 01:34:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In my opinion after so many years of friendship for her to do a low a dirty thing like talk bad about you and your boyfriend I think its time you let her go. She has issues and from what you are saying she doesent want your help, move on you dont need friends like that you sound like a good person and you dont deserve her to treat you that way for no reason. After all at the end she isnt family and she is just a friend and you dont need her drama. Goodluck
2006-08-31 01:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by lola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes tragedy make people grow apart, and not for very good reasons. Your friend may have been through rough times and I know you have been a good friend to her, but it doesn't add up to why she is being very ugly towards you. Maybe she lost the true meaning of friendship while at college, perhaps made new friends. I don't know, but you have to cut all ties with her. It won't be easy, because I had to do it too. Just cut those ties and remember that it is she who lost a very valuable friendship.
2006-08-31 01:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
20 years of friendship! Wow... You don't want to through that away... You need to talk to her... find a way to understand what she is going through... And she doesn't want to talk to you... find a way to reach out to her... let her know that you are always there for her... but give her the space she needs... Spending so much time with someone for almost 20 years can be a little crazy... Like you said she has been through a lot... She may be acting like she hates you but all she may really want is to know that you will be there.
2006-08-31 01:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by carmel_gurlie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like with everything that has gone on in her life and with you guys losing touch maybe she has to have someone to blame. I think alot of ppl. do that. They get upset and hurt someone that means the world to them. Don't let it get u down just shake it off. I know it maybe hard but, all you can do is be there even if she acts as if she doesn't want u to. Not necessarily in the same room with her but, pray for her. Just give it time and maybe she will wake up and realize that shes been wierd. Hope everything works out for u.
2006-08-31 02:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by ♫♪♥mï®♥♫♪ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What can you do about what? Her alienating you and everyone else in her life or that she's talking bad about you on the computer?
Decide if you are her friend or not. If you are then sit down with her and calmly explain that you are concerned and you would like to find out what is going on with her that has caused her to act so distant and hateful. Don't expect her to appreciate your efforts, but as a friend you have to do that.
If you are not her friend, then simply ignore her and distance yourself.
2006-08-31 01:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two things you can try. One is to ask her why is she behaving like this. The other thing is to distance yourself from her and laugh when your friends in common mentions her latest antics. This isn't a friend. this is someone with problems. You might want to suggest that she gets screened for depression. Other than that, time changes and so do people. the ability to maintain a long time relationship is the ability to change withing the dynamics of it and to respect it. Your "friend" isn't doing this. You will find that throughout your life, you will gain positive friends and learn to let go of negative ones.
2006-08-31 01:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, although I don't know how to help you, I could tell you jokes to help you feel better. The jokes goes:
-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?
One more joke:
A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.
Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!
2006-08-31 01:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am sorry to say this but she does not sound like much of a friend...i think people change and i do not know why....but i would not be considering her my friend for one and i would not contact her...i would post a blog on her and say ....i thought we once were friends but now i realise that you have changed and that you are sorry for that....but we must move on and find real friends in life if there are very many left....you do not have to say those exact words but i hope you get the idea of what i mean....
2006-08-31 01:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by sanangel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has a lot of issues and possibly depression. Instead of seeking help for herself she lashes out. Blames all her problems on others.Anyone is her a potential target. Apparently she has chosen you. I am sure their are others. Everyone that would read her blog can see it for what it is. My tough words to you is sever all ties. If she gets the mental health help she needs she will return with humility
2006-08-31 01:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by mary texas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you just have to feel sorry for her. She doesn't sound very healthy (mentally). The best thing to do is ignore her and any of her comments and slander, it sounds like she's trying to get a rise out of you. Be the better person and remember you're the one who ended up happy & healthy - just avoid her!
2006-08-31 01:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by LG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋