my husband used to have sex with me all the time, now he never wants to, I feel so loney. I just want to be wanted. I'm so unhappy. I know he has no physical problems or stress. why won't he have sex with me. should I divorce?
2006-08-31 01:02:25 · 25 answers · asked by Samantha N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There could be alot of reasons,try to talk to him about it.
2006-08-31 01:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry to you. You should talk to him first before making any decision, don't harshly judge him. It could be a health problem or maybe he has noticed that there's something wrong with you like you don't arouse him, or maybe you seldomly show him some good feeedbacks. Do you often argue? This is one of the reason why most men lose their enthusiasm to have sex . Did he tell you directly that he doesn't want to have sex with you anymore or just your imagination? Have a heart to heart talk with your husband it is very important for him to clarify this problem to you. The truth of the matter is, your problem cannot be resolved by other people except you & your husband especially. Don't misjudge him it isn't fair because you don't know the reason yet why he became like that. Unless you found the reason(s) then you can make solutions. Some relationships don't succeed due to not communicating with each other and leave the question unsolve. Don't do this. Good luck.
2006-08-31 01:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him? Have the two of you been to a counselor? There is much speculation about why a man won't have sex anymore (can't keep up with the woman, having sex with another woman/women, is gay, to name a few); but it would be best not to speculate. If you can't get to the bottom of the problem then you need to consider whether you can live with him and not have sex. That is a tough question. Be patient in the whole process; but don't let it drag on forever.
Good luck!
2006-08-31 01:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so quick to jump to divorcing him. He's probably just bored or tired (does he work a lot or more than usual?). Try seducing him. Turn off the TV (especially if he's a couch potato) and turn on some music. Give him a strip tease. Anything just to get his attention and keep it! Do something he never thought you'd do. Get creative and have fun!!
2006-08-31 01:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay is Never Having to Say " Are You Ready?"....this saying is on Chapter 1 of XAVIERA'S SUPERSEX......make one vacation and spend sometime alone with him. May be he needs to change the atmosphere. Try your new techniques for total lovemaking and see which one he likes. Lovemaking is an art.
If you can not make him exciting, how could both of you can work out. Divorcing is out of question. Improve your sex-drive first. Good luck to you.
2006-08-31 01:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by pimpa1949 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has changed in your marriage? Have you not given him sex for some reason and now he is punishing you? Did you just have a baby? Do you nagg him all the time? Is he working late more often than he used to. Have more meetings than what he used to? I would suspect that he has become involved with another woman.
2006-08-31 01:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not the answer. You took a vow for "better or worse". Is he under stress at work? Have you put on a lot of weight? Is it possible he is seeing someone else? Talk to him.
2006-08-31 01:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he needs some viagra, as he could have ed, or perhaps there are things youre not sayiing, like have you changed since the bigining, maybe hes having an affair, the only way you'll know is to ask him directly, in a supportive not authoritive manner
2006-08-31 01:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him first before asking if you should get a divorce.
If your unhappy about your sex life with hubby you should at least tell him.
2006-08-31 01:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you married your husband just for the sex then yes. if you didn't work at it . ask him why or if there is something you can do . he might be stressed and you don't even no it. try something new in the bedroom. just don't give up
2006-08-31 01:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are only two possible reason.
1) You are fat
or
2) He is having an affair and he likes her better.
This scenario has repeated itself in my friends and family more times than I can count. It is always one of those two things.
2006-08-31 01:12:11 · answer #11 · answered by InternetPosterChild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋