my husband wants me to pay 1/2 and do laundry and keep the house clean, am I wrong? We both work full-time.?

Question

He initially told me that he was going to pay all the bills, now that he can afford to do so, I have heard nothing about it. He thinks its a wife's job to keep the house clean. I disagree. I think when both parties work full-time, house work should be evenly divided. He cooks sometimes, but I'm the main cook also.

Answer 1

hey i am with you there. we both work full time and i still have to do all the household stuff even take care of our kids with no help. so he wont help much so i started doing it only 2 times a week if he dont like it then he will have to do his share to.

Answer 2

It sounds like you have a roommate from God. Pray for your husband to be more reasonable. Are you fairly newlywed? I know how it feels to have the good sense to discuss your expectations before marriage and then to find that you get a whole different deal. I pray for your grace in adjusting and remaining peaceful and sane through all of this.

My advice is to completely cut out all the division and math in the equation. Trust one another to put all the money into the same pot (bank account) and pay all bills and deal with the rest of the money through a set budget. The budget should include an allowance for you as his wife and the keeper of the home. You will feel much better doing this. Also, some house rules must be set. Clean the house ONE GOOD TIME. Sounds like he will help, TELL him to! Get the house totally clean and then (this sounds so simple, but it works and is sensible) never mess it up again. As soon as something is out of place, put it back when you're done with it. This makes ME look like a good housekeeper. Do you have separate closets? Get two hampers (I know...this goes against the anti-division thing, but bear with me) and wash your clothes normally, picking out a few socks and pairs of underwear for him. Let his laundry hamper stay inside of his closet and when it overflows, he will get a clue and wash.
Just do the housework, not because of a bigotted concept, but because it is your home and the LORD has blessed you with it. Something that has helped me grow in my marriage is this scripture and my husband has come around because of my attitude toward things and his love for me. I pray the same for you, but be sure to constantly and PLEASANTLY restate what YOU expect, but keep the past in the past, in love.
Colossians 3:23 "Whatsoever you do, do it heartily as to the Lord and not to men."
Peace

Answer 3

Have your 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous supply help to %. issues up on the floor and placed them away. you could tell her how vast she is and he or she can love helping. As for dad tell him to the two replace the babies diapers jointly as you clean or do the dishes. commerce issues that would desire to be carried out and enable him determine which one he desires to do jointly as you do the others. If no longer instruct a factor dont clean for an afternoon or 2 and then ask him what the hell is incorrect with the photograph here. in keeping with risk he gets the factor and help out.

Answer 4

Hi, although I don't know how to help you, I could tell you jokes to help you feel better. The jokes goes:

-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?

One more joke:

A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.

Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!

Answer 5

It is difficult to answer this question. It is not a question of who does what? What if he's too tired to do any house cleaning?

The best to do is probably decide on a 'time-table' to decide who does what when.

Though, I have seen marraiges work best when there is selflessness and not 'division of labor'.

The guy could help her with the groceries, washing the dishes and clothes and of course caring for the kids.

Is n't that what brings you closer to each other?

Answer 6

when you share your life with someone, especially when you are ready and willing to grow old together, there shouldn't be any sort of division, I pay half you pay half, my money your money etc...You should cooperate and work together towards your future, your wellbeing, your inner peace and harmony. Everything is both yours and his, as well as the housework. And it shouldn't be an obligation either, it should be done because you two want to live well and help each other.

Answer 7

i think its a good idea to agree or at least quietly agree the chores of the home..my bf and i both work full time.. and divide the chores up.. i take care of the pets and the laundry, he mainly does the dishes and the cooking.. and we both pick up and tidy up

it seems to work alright for us

Answer 8

Make him wash his own clothes and take it in turns to cook dinner, it's an equal partnership especially when you both work equal hours

Answer 9

Tell your husband to get a slave, why would you subject yourself to his selfish way of thinking, I bet he doesn't care if you orgasm either! He's a dog!

Answer 10

shave his head while hes sleeping..he will get the point