I'm 6ft and my girlfriend is 5'3 - and I'm getting serious backache!! I've suggested heels but she says she's scared 'cos she's never worn them before. We go shopping and she won't even try a pair on! What can I do?? Does anyone know a good website with nice high-heeled shoes so that I can tempt her?
2006-08-31 00:14:00 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
The new fashionable heels are platform heels and if you flick through the recent VOGUE then they give you plenty of ideas. Personally I love Kurt Geiger platform heels and I also love classic Chanel heels - unbeatable. I don't really need heels as I am 5"8'5. Hopefully she will see your worthy point and possibly she will stumble across her own perfect heels. Good luck!
2006-08-31 05:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by AJGeniusz 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You have to realize that not everyone's body is made for high heels. The ankles have to be very strong to handle this. If you're girlfriend has had any sprained ankles it can weaken the muscle. I can't wear them due to a major sprain years ago.
Also, just because men like high heels, doesn't mean they are comfortable to women. Back in the 1950's women's high heels were becoming really popular and women wore them not because they were comfortable, but because it was nice looking. The problem was, now a lot of those women now have back & foot problems that will never go away. Women wiggled in the shoes, which men liked, but the wiggle was due to discomfort most of the time. Do some research on this, you can find it easily on the web.
Don't force high heels on your girlfriend. If you do chances are she'll fall and break an ankle. Try introducing her to a more broad and shorter heeled shoe. Start small. The broader the heel the better the support. I'm guess your girlfriend has never worn any heeled shoes before, so small is best.
In this URL you'll see a broad heel. You'll want a shoe that has no openings for toes because she will need the extra support for now. And she'll need a bit of a shorter heel, about half the size it is now. http://k41.pbase.com/t4/91/256791/4/51972143.IMG_1835.jpg
What you do is take her out shopping and introduce her to some inexpensive, yet nice, broad heeled shoes. Tell her you're willing to help her learn how to walk in them and let her know that the hell is far more smaller in these. Chances are, the shorter heel will be enough to compensate in height. You're going to have to hold her hands and help her walk for support for a few days while she gains her confedence in learning how to use these shoes. It's not easy. If you don't believe me, try a pair for yourself and see what your girlfriend has to go through. Don't have her wear them all at once. You two practice her walking in them a few minutes each day. These shoes will probably hurt at first until she can stretch them out. Also, most shoe places can stretch out the shoe for her to make it fit her more comfortably. *been there, done that*
Good luck.
2006-08-31 00:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Voice 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try to tempt her to wear cowboy boots (to match with mini skirts or jeans) which usually have about 2 inches heels!
OK... here is my real suggestion. What does she like to wear? You should know which styles she wears most and then try to tempt her with some 1 inch or 1.5 inches heels shoes which match her styles. It is impossible to ask her try 2 inches up heels at the beginning. Some sneakers have thick soles too, Nike, airmax, etc. at least 1 inch soles which I think she would try them on.
It is not easy to find some comfortable 3 inches heels as walking shoes, you should understand this and do not expect your girlfriend would wear 4 inches heels to please you.
(When you want to face to face with her, try to sit down or lift her up or put her on your laps!.. there shouldn't be any problem when you two are in bed, right?)
2006-08-31 01:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by Aileen HK 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I'd like to address a few comments. Anyone over about 4'9" is NOT a midget. Short maybe, but not a midget.
If something attracted you to her, I'm sure it wasn't her height. If you care for her and want to make the relationship work, then concentrate on her, not how tall she is. If you're going to choose her, then you have to choose her as she is. If she's not one that wants to wear heels, then don't think you can change her.
Some people physically can't wear heels. Sometimes their arches, tendons, back, or other qualities may prevent them from doing so. So, if you just "MUST" have someone a certain height, then don't expect her to "grow" for you, via body or devices such as shoes.
Be careful....she just may insist that you come down to her height. And I'm sure you wouldn't want to start cutting off inches for her!
FYI: I'm 5'1" and was married to a man that was 5'9" for 8 years. That's a difference of 8 inches. There's a difference of 7 inches between you and your girlfriend. So, I "KNOW" you really don't have a real problem here. We never had a problem. And I don't wear heels. I live on the beach in the south...so I'm a "flip flop" girl. It's what you make of it and how important she is to you. You're going to have to decide how much "SHE" really means to you.
Now, if she does choose to wear heels, you do need to know there are short heels, even those that are only about an inch or two high. So, while they're not the spikes that you're probably wanting to see her in to bring her up to your height, they may be a compromise.
And remember, if you go trying to send her to some website or entice her with shoes, it's not as simple as buying a hat. Quality and fit are important, especially in heels. Just because a pair of shoes look stylish or cute doesn't mean she'll be able to wear them. They're not something that you can just bring home as a gift. If they don't wear comfortably, then they're only going to sit in the bottom of her closet.
But, if you're so shallow as to "NEED" her to "grow" for you, then I think she need to be the one that dumps you! She doesn't need to spend the rest of her life with someone that shallow and that can't choose to love "HER" rather than her height.
Think about it.
2006-08-31 00:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Proverbs31Mom 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
If she doesn't like them, then drop the issue.
But if she does want to try then out and is just scared, she should get some boots with wide heels, maybe just one or two inches. Boots hold your feet in place, and the wider the heel the easier it is to balance. Once she gets the hang of that she can go for higher, thinner, heels and strappy shoes.
2006-08-31 00:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by - 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
This is seriously a big problem... Now your back hurts, but after she puts on her pair of high heels... she'll hurt even more, all over! Maybe if you sort of spread your legs a little so you get shorter??? And find out what size she is and then go out and buy het a pair of heels. So she can get used to wearing them, which she then have to as they were a gift..
2006-08-31 00:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
high heels are really uncomfortable and it is unpleasant to put pressure on her to do something that will make her feel uncomfortable, especially if you care for her. I am not short but my ex used to try to get me in heels just cos he had a fetish about it.
To be honest 2 inch heels weren't that bad, i actually enjoyed wearing them, but the 4 inch and above heels that men go crazy for are really horribly uncomfortable and painful.
There are plenty of girls who wear heels all the time and don't mind a bit of discomfort if it gets them the attraction of the opposite sex. Why don't you date one of these girls instead, one who likes wearing heels.
Either that or date someone taller.
Or just buy her a pair of little (2 inch) heels and see how she fairs in those.
However if she really doesn't want to please don't put pressure on her to. Oh and if your feet size is 8, 9 or 10 go to the shop evans or barratts and try on a pair of heels in there (they do large size heels) And you will see for yourself how uncomfortable they are. Also watch how girls wearing them walk all funny
2006-08-31 00:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Donna : 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
maybe tell her to start off with a small heel and work her way up to higher heels once confident. A kitten heel are very much so easy to walk in, the same as a stack heel.
Practise makes perfect.
2006-09-03 02:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by lonely as a cloud 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you really care/love her and you want her to wear high heels for both your comfort not to get off on your fantasy.
By pointing out that its her fault she's short, she's not only going to be defensive but down right opposed to wearing high heels.
I'm sure everyone knows high heels are NOT meant for comfort but rather for fashion and for height difference.
so the best way to get her to do it not only be supportive and positive show her that it'll help reduce the height difference (i'm sure she probably is tired of looking way over her head and you bending over to her)
also ask her to try one occasion at a time i guarantee you high heels get much easier to wear over practice, start out by buying her a hot pair of sandals that look good BUT ARE ALSO very comfortable.. start with that and she'll not only have to make no effort to buy one but she'll try it.. as long as you are trying to feed it to her slowly, before you know it she'll be rocking stilettos everyday lol
2006-08-31 02:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by exquisitegyal 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First of all, you should not try to "convince" her. It sounds like she feels awkward in them. Does she ice-skate or in-line skate? These sports help to develop strength and balance in the ankles and are good practice for learning how to walk in heels. Also, you might mention to her that most women in Italy wear heels...everywhere they go and all hours of the day and night! It is quite fashionable and it does create a sexy look ;)
2006-08-31 00:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by Ms T 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋