Is it better to keep the rotten friends I have or, for self respect, do without them and become lonely?

Question

I seem to attract some horrible people and all I hear is "you should make some friends who treat you right", but I never do meet them. Do I just take on anyone or should I stay lonely and at least have self respect/esteem? Please help.

Answer 1

Keep your self-esteem and self-respect. That is your priority. Good friends will come and friends will come and go but if you lose your sense of individuality and self-respect, you're nobody and no one else could care less. Love yourself, first and foremost.

Answer 2

Try the example of the cat fish. Live in the mud but don't become muddy. Not simple- but then, not your problem either.
To me it's a question of priority : what comes first - self esteem, or rotten friends ? The choice is obvious. And don't think - the world is ending tonight. You will get friends again- so , just smile and carry on.

Answer 3

You won't make GOOD friends until you disassociate yourself from the people you're hanging with now. You won't stay lonely for long. When people see that you no longer run with the bad crowd they will be more inclined to be your friend. It will take a little time but with self respect on your side, you will win in the long run. People who treat you badly are not your friends. Not now; not ever!

Answer 4

I had a best friend who treated me really badly, making herself feel better by making me feel as bad as possible. She dropped out of school in the sixth form and I rarely saw her after that. I went to uni and when I came back we got in touch again. She'd done a lot of growing up, had matured and actually apologised for the way she'd previously treated me.
Based on this I would say cut the ties with the crap friends. If they're worth it they'll come back to you. Find people who are like you, like the same things. There's no reason to be lonely.

I hope you find what you're looking for.

Answer 5

Stay alone and have respect which will turn into self dependence.
Then you will ask your self what you were ever doing with those people, Some people want to keep you down, once you are rid of them you'll achieve a lot more.

Answer 6

most people, and i'm sure you are like most people, Right?
if you associate with rotten friends they will bring you down to their level of looking at life.
abusing drugs ,prison whatever.

are those really friends? and what are they doing to help improve YOUR LIFE?
self esteem is just that knowing what you can do without all of the negative stuff that everybody has and tries to put on you.
who made them the judge?

find happiness within yourself first. sometimes so called lonely time gives you time to think about what is really important to you.

Answer 7

Have self respect, why associate yourself with losers. To be a friend you must be worth it, you must exceed the word friend and be more beyond words what a friend is. You shouldn't pick thru the leftovers of drama queens, dramatic, self loathing people. Kick um to the curb, and maybe meet people at school or goto MEETUP.COM and find ppl who share your same interests!

Answer 8

try and find out what ul need in a friend then evalute ur friends on that there are so many good people out there,dont give up so many good people u shd meet in life that will change the way u think but pray boy pray and just dont jump on anything u find

Answer 9

Get self esteem. Its better to have self esteem then friends who will treat you very badly.

Answer 10

Bite the bullet and make way for change.

A bad friend is an energy vampire.

Why would you want to do that to yourself?

keep your respect intact.Make room in your life for people who will be good to you.Toss the old baddies!