I'm married and divoced and I'm so dissapointed about life. How to get over this problem.?

Question

Sometimes i feel so lonely.i'm in a hostel.I'm going for dancing classes swimming to spend my lessuire time. Still my 28 years.I have sactrificed a lot in my marriage life. I'm a christian and do not want to marry anyone from other religons.I feel nobody loves me and care for me. I cant concentrate on my work when I'm working.
I don't like to meet my relations since they made sarcastic comments when I got divoced. They are happy about it. I tried to find a partner who is understanding and loving but I couldn't do that. All are trying to get the advantage since I'm divorced.I know that I'm good looking, educated and I'm confident that I can be a very good wife and a mother. I'm a very flexible person,but y do i have to suffer like this? I happened to checked my horescope even thought i don't believe it they said i'm going through a bad period and told me that i have to wait till i'm 32 years to get a good life.My parents are old. One day i will be all alone in the world.Ifeel so sad.

Answer 1

You need to put down the tissues and pick up the bible. You say you are a Christian, but where is your faith?

Answer 2

My friend you said you were a Christian thus I would hope you do consider the true Christian principles. Please I am not saying the ones taught by the so called Christians OK.

Lot's wife was told when she was rescued with Lot to not look back but she did and was turned to a pilar of salt as a witness to all. Do not look back any more.

I in my position say that My God is in control of everything. Thus I do accept that everything is a blessing eventhough I do not understand how it is. I do thank my God for both the good called blessing and what others call bad for I know it is a blessing in disguise. Yes, maybe I am different from most but then that is why I am a "NO" and not connected to any organization.

Please for your sake, set the past behind, learn from it and remember each new day is a new day and the first day of the rest of your life. What did happen is history and it can not be changed. However tomorrow is ahead and you can smile, look forward to it being better with hope and expect your God to fix all your hurts with knowledge and understanding if you will just let him. There is a promise that He will always be there for his children and that everything does work for the good for those who do love the Lord, AND DO CALL UPON HIS NAME. For me that calling is to talk to him as your Father and the only one who can fix all the hurts,

If I did not help I am sorry, but I did try. Spend some time and just ask your God to make you understand and to take care of you and He will. Forget the horror scopes [my thoughts] and listen for the guidence from your God. Pour out your heart to him and tell him your problem. I know he already did answer it but you may not see the answer yet. Just know you will OK

As far as other wanting to hurt you or take advantage, such is life. When one is down most others want to walk on them rather than take time to try to help them up. Such is just the innate nature of humankind and you must accept it as a fact. Forget them and do what you as a true follower of the Christ would do. Seek God's guidance. That is what Jesus did at his most trying times - He talked to His Father.

Answer 3

Time everyone will say it and it is true after such a gut wrenching breakup it will take time turn to your family if you are feeling depressed they may have made unpleasant quips in the past but they are your flesh and blood they love you . you will find Mr right again he is out there looking just for you he's just not looking your way right now . You are a christian and there are christians out there that dont think that divorcies are sinners and that they are just victims of love that has departed.
Hey horoscopes are none to wrong in a few instances (99.9% of the time .lol) you said it your self your a stunner and you have a good head on your shoulders what single guy isnt going to try take advantage of that , be careful and selective .
Get out there and show the world that there is a speacial girl in you and that you will over come all that has happend to you

Answer 4

first girl is right-what about Faith? that or go out-have a few drinks and good time-work on step #1-meeting a guy (or girl whatever) to have fun with-worry bout bf/gf then husband in time-and whats the rush-can be alone but not lonely. That or "settle" for less than u want or deserve if the only thing u want is company. Really, one step at a time-will come at you from out of NO WHERE. Did for me-and still having fun along the way.

Answer 5

At 28 why in a hurry to get married again? Concetrate on ur career meet friends but dont commit urself into a relationship unless u are sure about it again. Dont get hurt again

Register urself at rista.com, maybe u can find someone of ur religion and race.

Meanwhile with God's grace spent more time with ur parents cos u said they are old. U dont deserve a sad life, continue ur dancing swimming and find time to chat with a fren.

Last but not least u cant stop ppl from talking abt u, let them be cos only ppl who are not happy tend to do like this. we call this little ppl.

God Bless

Answer 6

I go through it every day, and ive been at it for quite some time. Im a S/D of 2, I get depressed, I get lonely, but I have recently found someone who I care for very deeply as well, that makes the diference. Sometimes you have to stick your neck out a little bit. I got told all the time that I turn girls heads when Im going out, I never took any notice, and I used to wish that at least one of them was brave enough to stop me and tell me that. It may take a while to find the right guy, but youll eventually find them if you dont walk around with your eyes shut and feeling sorry for yourself.

Answer 7

you can get a better life than before i trust, after you the bad period . and you can do something during this time like that look at yourself what is bad and what are your strong points?
i can feel that It is not so good about the married life , you can try again to make a friend with others, and do something interested in, i mean that to rebuild your life and talk with your parents get some wisdom from them ,for the family is so important for human being, you can clam and read some good books or magazines to clear your spirit and restart again, with a faith day by day,you can have a better life than before i trust.you can help yourself and then to help others too.

Answer 8

My sister, God is waiting for your type of person to come to him and he will change your life. Being a christian is different from knowing God and what he can do. Casting all your problems for he careth for you [1Pt 5:5; Jn 11:28]. No matter how hard you think you have suffered God can still make a way where there is no way.It doesnt matter your age you can still get married or remarried to your husband. Have sat down and pondered what caused the quarrel between you and your husband? Have you tried to sort it over with him or do you think it doesnt matter? Resolving issues are worth doing my sister. But one is certain that God needs you to know him and that he can solve your problems only when you come to him and complain to him. Take your case to him he will solve it for you, but dont give up your life for it is not your own allow the owner to take it whenever he wants.

Answer 9

The only thing you (meaning any person) have control over is yourself. In other words, you you don't have any choices when it comes to other peoples behavior. Focus on yourself! Do what you need to do for yourself, but also identify some good things in life that you need start doing, and make it your focus to do so. Focusing on yourself, means focusing on other people's positive attributes. Whatever others do, give them the benefit of the doubt, and show them that you don't want to be negative. If others are negative towards you, the problem lies with them and not with you. But if you respond in a negative way, the problem has become a part of you. Good luck!

Answer 10

Smile at the World and World will smile at You!
You are not alone friend! And you were never!
Try to find where you made mistakes, and dont try to find the mistakes of others. Even if you find dont express the feelings. Sometimes tis better to keep mum for a healthy family.

Cheerup and be happy when you are with parents. they are old, and they cant tolerate when u r dull and down. Rather than thinking like why I am alone, think for whom your parents are here ? Its just for You. So you will hav to survive for them. Keep faith in God, and tomorrow you will be in the top of the world!
God Bless You

Answer 11

How long have you felt like this? You've obviously been going through a pretty rough time and I'm wondering if you need to talk to a doctor to check out whether you are just sad or if you are clinically depressed. Sleep problems and failure to be able to concentrate are also so signs of depression. Depression is treatable and doesn't have to be a life long problem. People often find that with treatment they feel more positive and that they are better able to deal with life in general.
When this happens, people can work on things like self esteem, and being content. You need to learn to like yourself and to realise that you don't need someone else to make your life complete. Stop looking for someone else to make you feel good and learn to do it for yourself. Build up a network of friends and make a life for yourself. You may find that when you stop looking for someone spend your life with you and work on your self esteem, that that person will come along.
Anyway, this will all come as you begin to feel better in yourself. The first step is to talk to your doctor.
I am raising 2 children alone and I have had clinical depression. It's treatable and I have learnt to value myself and that I don't need anyone else to make me a good person. I do that fine on my own!
Good luck.