Ever since July when everyone graduated, all my friends who I went to Uni with have moved away to greener pastures (and I cant fault them that). I have maybe one or two friends from outside uni who are still around, and our working hours are different. I broke up with my girlfriend two months ago after we decided that the distance relationship thing doesnt work. Therefore, I have hardly anyone to interact with. It doesnt help that I live in a notoriously racist and segregated part of the country where people ain't to keen on my skin colour. Now I feel I'm going crazy because I hardly interact with anyone outside work. Any serious suggestions?
2006-08-30 23:24:40 · 23 answers · asked by Wildhoney 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You've heard all this before but I'll say it anyway...Consider moving away yourself. Is there anywhere that a lot of your mates have moved to? Have you tried asking people at work if they want to go for a drink after work or if they play sport. This will widen your circle of friends as they may bring along their mates from outside work.
Did you have a particluar bar or pub you all used to go to, you could try going there alone and maybe see some people there that are familiar and force yourself to chat to them.
Look for a group/club to join. Take an evening class and make friends with other students. ie a language course.
Go to the gym and just chat to people as you exercise, that's at least one thing you have in common with them.
2006-08-31 00:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep I have a serious suggestion. Do some volunteer work. People are always looking for carers for the elderly(you can meet other carers and staff) Join a team, sporting, take up a class, learn some more on computer? You can meet people your own age or close enough to it. And if it is at the local community college or something like that( I am in Australia so I am not sure what you have)
I find it hard to believe that people are so racist there, seeing as you have friends, had friends and had a girlfriend. Things always look darker when we are feeling down. Make yourself get up and do it. Wallowing in self pity is fun for a while but you can't build a life on it.
2006-08-30 23:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dancing classes and clubs are great places to meet people and have fun. It's also a great time of the year to join any sort of class, they are just starting up after the Summer break. Pottery, chess, cooking all these classes provide an opportunity to meet new people.
Your area sounds less than interesting, so try and move on and get some enjoyment out of life. As 'they' say, "life's not a rehearsal"
Another life saver is helping others, voluntary work, very good for the soul...
Go for it, good luck!
2006-08-30 23:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by vagabonde 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) Move out of your racist community. (Not all communities are rough on the melanin enriched...)
2) Join a team or club of some sort; softball, volleyball, church groups.
3) Make sure the folks you work with are aware that you are looking for fun after work. The more people you know and can hang out with, the more opportunities you'll have to meet the types of folks you dig.
4) Go out!! Do not yield to the temptation to sit in front of the TV on a Friday or Saturday night.
Good Luck-
Peace.
2006-08-30 23:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by funigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go hang out at a bar. Plop your drunken butt down at a table and meet new people. Otherwise, wait and hope for something to present itself.
I was in the same situation just out of high school 3 years ago and the best thing that happened to me was when a good friend from childhood reconnected ties with me.
Just make sure you don't miss any opportunities to interact with people, even if you don't think you like them. They can always introduce you to more people.
Find old buds who are still around. Find new people. Bars are a great way to meet random bored people. Just don't go to a sleasy one.
2006-08-30 23:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by Seraphim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Making new friends and finding a new gf isn't that difficult for an experienced person like you. Don't let yourself be consumed with morbid thoughts about social non-interaction and racist paranoia. Open-up and be happy, everyone will be your friend but remember the old saying: "A friend to everybody is a friend to nobody". Wish you the best of friends and luck.
2006-08-30 23:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes my friend, The day that you left uni was the last day of your childhood.Now you,ve got to face what the ancients have been telling you for a long time. You,ve got to gird up your loins(Whatever they are) suck in your belly ,stick out that noble chin, strap on the sword of truth,(this is great,aint it) and to boudly go where millions have gone before. Out there in the big world there is a place for you, it dont belong to anyone else, it,s yours, go find it buster, the world belongs to you.(Is this inspiering or not?) Then and as you go we will all join in and sing our favorite song. KEEP RIGHT ON TILL THE END OF THE ROAD ect
2006-08-30 23:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's nothing my friend. you can still make yourself a good life out of your miserable one. everybody has his/her time. you will be surprised one day to find out that there has been smthing very big in store for you all along. let your g/friend go. it's indeed very hard, but just take life as it comes. cheer up your old college mates (those who have landed themselves good jobs), and finally, be proud you have a different skin colour to anybody around you in your neighbourhood. in due course, you will find out that what you thought was actually a very bad life for you is in fact a happiest one anybody around has ever experienced before. just remember: patiency brings joy.
2006-08-30 23:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life can really be crap at times can't it!
Have you looked at groups and societies in your area. Voluntary work could be another option, likewise night classes!
As for the racism...what can I say? I'd live to say move but it's not that easy with work - place to live etc.
Hope it gets better!
2006-08-30 23:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a sports team
2006-08-30 23:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by Folded Paper Figures 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋