Ive been with this guy for 6 years , finally now were getting engaged...
but all the sudden i find him annoying and hes getting on my nerves ..and i even look at him like hes ugly?? ..i dnt know why.... what should i do??
does it mean i dont love him no more or is it just jitters?? whats up with me?
I have no idea what to do im getting scared
2006-08-30 22:48:44 · 9 answers · asked by zombiegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thats the problem with most of us
its not only with ur BF Or GF- it happens with all stuff
example- u get a new bike or new mobile- u just love it , u just take care of it- etc etc- but as the time passes u start liking new stuff & old stuff looks ugly-- isnt it?
just think of it?
u love that guy- b with him?
just think as if , u have no friens, no family member - & u only have ur BF & then u loose him- wat will happen to u ?
just luv ur BF & if u have any complains , then tell him , he will listen . if he loves u
bye
take care
;-)
2006-08-30 22:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by jay Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have been out-of-love with this guy for a long time You've been with him for 6 years, and normally, people become too co-dependent and no longer have the will to leave someone they've been with for so long and start over. Your lack of love is just suddenly hitting you now because you've made a committment to spend the rest of your life with him.
I hope that I'm wrong and its jitters, but my advice is, don't put any money down on the receptions, photographers, etc. etc. until you are sure you want to go through with the wedding, because once family, money, and vendors are involved then it is even harder to break up.
2006-08-31 01:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you make it an "official" that you are going to marry him this starts to happen. I read about it in a brides magazine before. It is true though. You start to try and find every fault that you possibly can and it will drive you crazy. What you should do? Realize that you have an amazing man. You dealt with this for six years already so nothing is going to change. Part of being married means accepting the other person for their faults and saying that you are willing to deal with them, not change them. You should try and keep that in your mind the next time you start to criticize him.
Right after we got married I went through this. We didn't live together before (and in different states), so all of a sudden I find myself shutting all the cupboard doors ALL the time. I mean ALL the time. I would even bang my head on them. I would get so pissed off and slam them, hoping that he would hear it. Yea right. We went out with some friends that use to live with him and they were joking about how he always does that. It made me realize its just him, and those people are still friends with him! It was such a petty thing to get angry about! Just try to blow it off if you can.
2006-08-30 23:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its merely an important phase that u are undergoing & u have to decide whether u love him or not.Being with someone for 6 years,does not mean u know the person completely,but if u love someone just being with them ,spending time with each other will mean the world.Outward appearance will not matter but the inner qualities.Just take sometime off to think whether u want to live with/without this guy?
2006-08-30 23:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by ANGEL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what to tell u.. i know with my jitters i did have slight mood swings and i was more scared of my husband leaving me as far as after we were married and crushing me like my first husband did more so then that i didnt love him.. U need to really sit down and think if he is the one u want to be with for the rest of your life.. my mom once told me "you know when u love someone, when u cant view your life with out that person".. so think about it, and be honest with urself.. cause if u dont really love him, u need not to destroy his and your lives if ur not going to be committed to this marriage..
2006-08-30 22:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic... just give it some time. It might just be jitters.
2006-08-30 23:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jitters i suspect
2006-08-30 23:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes with people the wanting is more satisfying than the having.
2006-08-30 22:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are going of him to me, but if he ugly and anoying then who cares!
2006-08-30 23:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋