when he called me "on the phone" and told me he met another girl, and she was now his girlfriend. Im still pregnant, 5 months now. And i dont have a clue what happened? Why would he be so happy about it when i told him? his face lit up, and he went and told his whole family right away. I thought everything was about to take off. Now i dont know how to deal with the sadness, and the crying, not sleeping, and asking myself what i did to make him after 4 years and carrying his baby, "just turn his back on his what was and is his family, for another girl" Why do men do this? How is it so easy for them? Yet im here trying to remain calm for my baby, being sad and depressed isnt exactly heathy for pregnancy, but how the hell am i supposed to feel, this whole thing is a 360. And im sooooo confused. I know after the baby is born i wont want to even look at him... ive lost all respect, and i pray he doesnt decide to not want to be a father all of a sudden one day too? does anyone have advice?
2006-08-30 22:43:32 · 6 answers · asked by sassygrl702 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like he wasnt ready to be a dad yet, and may never be ready. I doubt its something you have done wrong, some guys and even girls ( I do have the experience to say that) arent ready to be a parent, get scared and run off. Im really sorry about your situation, Im a single Dad of 2, I know how hard it is for me. You need to have faith in yourself that you can do it, one day youll meet the right person, he obviously wasnt it. Even if the father doesnt want anything to do with his child after he/she is born, look at it this way, better off with out a dad if its a dead beat dad.
2006-08-30 22:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jack J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say to you. You made the assumption that many girls do that if you give him sex he will love you but that is seldom true. Just don't make the same mistake with someone else or you'll be in the same shape in a few years.
Now, this is the time when you have to grow up and start making serious plans for yourself and the baby. Forget your boyfriend, he's just shown you what kind of "man" he is.
Go to a lawyer and start papers for child support. He may think that he can have his fun and not suffer any consequences for it, but that is not true. You must not let him sweet talk you with promises. He may "promise" a lot of stuff to get you to call off your lawyer but it will all be a lie.
Your baby will need money so he can live a decent life and his dad should help out with this. It would be best for the kid if his dad took an interest in him and acted like a dad but this may be more than this guy can do, so you have to be the best parent you can be.
2006-08-30 23:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay the way ur.. if he dumped u in such a state, he will get dumped by the other one day or the other. dnt worry, u baby wnt lack love since ur there for him/her. God will take care of u n ur baby dear n will make him miss u both so much that he will finally come back to u. True love has great power,,,, believe me.
Take care n dnt worry, its not good for the baby... its said that a pregnant woman should always be happy so the child can com to this world hapilly.
2006-08-30 22:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you are hurt but plz try to keep fit for the baby,everything happens for a reason maybe is becouse the 2 of you where not meant for each other.1 last thing in the future plan things with your partner (if only you had plan this baby with him you woud have known better).GOOD LUCK WITH THE BABY.
2006-08-30 22:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by lovejoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a devastating situation . without giving any clue your boy friend turning his back to you. .but now you have to keep your cool as otherwise it will affect your baby.some time men are callous and insensitive pigs,but you have to pull it through
2006-08-30 22:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by trishul60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,Honey,it's way too complicated for me.
2006-08-30 22:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋