2006-08-30 22:29:45 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
MAYBE U SHOULD TALK TO HER N GIVE HER TIME. SHE SHUD HAVE A REASON FOR HER ACTS. ALSO TRY TO PLEASE HER N MAKE HER HAPPY TAKE HER OUT OR CANDLE LIGHT DINNER OR MAYBE A WALK ON THE BEACH AT NIGHT WILL SURELY HELP. TRY TO MAKE HER MOOD.
2006-09-07 19:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by arpana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds great!! Doesn't it? Why do you want to lose time by foreplay? Do you know how many men are there in the world that would want to have a partner like yours?
2006-09-07 21:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by blackeagle81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a discussion with her about her preferences, likes and dislikes... either 1 of 2 things are going on.. well 3
these could be :
1. she is just frigid and doesn't like sex
2. she's got something else going on somewhere else
3. she has some emotional boundary issues and sex is triggering something abnormal for her making her detached from the entire act of love making.
Good luck to you... and I hope it is just she is frigid, which u can fix that easy with alot of tlc and once she gets going she will never want to stop. As for the two of my theories.. hope it aint # 2, and if it were # 3, you need to show this lady alot of patience and understanding and do anything you can possibly within reason to make her feel good about herself and build some trust with her to open up to you.
2006-09-07 17:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is She Nutz...Foreplay Is Awesome. Maybe She's Shy And Doesn't Want You To See Her In That Way. Try Talkin' To Her.
2006-09-07 17:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!! :o) I hope you're OK. It's quite possible that your partner was brought up to believe that sex is 'dirty'. She might not FEEL comfortable HAVING sexual thoughts and feelings and because of that - wants to 'get it over with' as quickly as possible. Becoming aroused might make her feel vulnerable and afraid. The act of 'sex' is quite mechanical. It's being intimate with someone that causes many people to feel uncomfortable. [Because it's when we are being intimate - that we are REALLY close to someone physically] Chances are - if she didn't love YOU - she might not have sex at all. I think this is something that both of you need to seriously talk about. Don't approach the topic in a way that might make her feel as though she is disappointing YOU. That's not what this is all about. This isn't about you and your needs. This is about your partner and HER feelings about sex and her fear of intimacy. Be gentle and kind. I think it's quite possible that there is quite a 'mess' hidden under one of her 'rocks'. [hidden in her past] It's hard to put aside some of the inappropriate messages we got when we were growing up. And THAT just might be what's keeping your partner from allowing herself to really get 'into it' and feel SAFE while having sex. Craig!! :o)
2006-08-30 23:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, my friend, maybe it's you. Do a self-inventory on yourself - be honest no matter how much it hurts. Then do the same for her - be honest. This is an exercise that can be done alone, the only requirement is honesty. You may just find that it's not you, it's actually her. Either way it goes, a proper assessment is the key. Good luck with that!
P.S. A little pre-sex porn never hurt - try it.
2006-09-06 08:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by the_ahriginal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not everbody enjoys sex--true! The 2 of you could compromise in some way. Take her out for a special evening, give her a long backrub to help the mood. There are good books available at on line sites and local libraries.
2006-08-30 22:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she like it at one time. If she does not like it now or never has, maybe something you are doing is hurting her. Maybe she is not comfortable with her body. If she use to like and no longer does, she may not really be in love with you and may think more of you as a good friend and does not want to hurt your feelings, therefore, will do the duty, but wants it over quickly.
2006-09-06 15:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesn't really like you. If you cannot turn her on why do you bother with her
.Find somebody that is excited by you or you are going to have a very bad love life. Wanting you to finish quickly means she hates doing it
either that or she just does not fancy you--either way it isnt good.
2006-08-30 22:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by virginia o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her and ask what she wants you to do. its not necessarily that she doesnt like foreplay or thinks you're bad in bed. she may just not be into the kinds of things you do even if women in the past have enjoyed them.
2006-09-07 15:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by Melanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your partner and find out what they like. Sometimes as a partner you may feel like you are doing things right when you are not. So you are going to have to start actively communicating with your partner. i.e. Does this feel good? Do you like when I do this?
2006-08-30 22:50:30 · answer #11 · answered by tifftazia18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋