Ok, so....long story short...I'm 21, and I've been married for 4 years. My husband and I have been drifting apart for awhile now. I recently met someone, but I don't want anything to happen until I'm at least seperated from my husband. I also have a 4 year old daughter. I live in the west with my husband, and the man I want to be with lives in the south. How do I go about telling my husband that, while I still love him *because he's the father of my child* that I'm not longer in love with him? He's given me reason to leave him before, and I wont go into that right now, but I told him I'd stick by him. My husband has also been suicidal in the past, putting even more stress on me. He's a good dad, and I want him to be able to see his child. What to do?
2006-08-30 22:10:29 · 10 answers · asked by Sinda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only reason I still love him is because he is the father of my daughter...and he's good to her. I know that I dont want to be with him, I just dont know how to talk to him about it.
2006-08-30 22:53:58 · update #1
I don't think that you should stay with him just because of your daughter. If he really is a good father, then he would do the right thing even if you are not with him. Besides, if you stay with him and don't love him then you may being doing more harm then good for your daughter. You have to consider your feelings also.
2006-08-31 02:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by jacemo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You no, i am 21 also, married for 3 yrs, child of 3 and one on the way and my marrage has just ended.
in the past i have also had cuase to leave in the past and never did.
If i had things may have been differant. If your marrage is over, end it.
You will only prolong things and they will become worse and worse so just call it quits.
Maybe you will even be able to stay friends, wish that is what i had done.
2006-08-30 22:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want my honest answer here it is:
It would be selfish of you to destroy the home for your kid while she grows up. You should stick it out and do whatever is best for her first, since it was you two who brought her into the world.
Now, you can tell him that your prime concern is your daughter and that will soften any other blows you chose to talk to him about.
Remember, the only innocent here is your daughter. Make sure she's taken care of first, and then worry about seperating.
2006-08-30 22:15:41 · answer #3 · answered by Seraphim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about how you are feeling about the relationship and where it is not going. Keep him in the light about your feelings and it might not be as bad as you think. Don't tell him about this other man, though. If you aren't happy why keep this going? Talk to your husband. Try not to feel like you're in a hole you can't get out of. You will regret it if you do not act on this and there will be reprocussions if you let it fester.
2006-08-30 22:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by hyellasunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find some time to talk to your husband, about how you feel. Since you do not love him anymore, then move on. But he's a good dad... Well, Good Luck. Remember to talk to him.
2006-08-30 22:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by space 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try counseling... you say you still love him so there may be hope for your marriage... but you are still very young and you have a very long time to be miserable if you stick with your husband for the sake of your daughter. give yourself time to sort out what you really want.
2006-08-30 22:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by dosey-rosey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are only responsible for your own actions, just because he was suicidal in the past to make that be a factor in your decision. Your decision is a tough one and I hope you do what is best for you life is too short to be miserable. good luck
2006-08-30 23:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a marriage conselor and a mental health counselor for your hubby. Good luck, God Bless.
2006-08-30 22:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him what you just wrote or better yet write him a letter telling him how you feel i have with my hubby in the past tc good luck
2006-08-30 22:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by brandi_23sc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is short.if the love has gone' so should you'
2006-08-30 22:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by cattreesea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋