My wife is a rare treasure and joy, however, the two of us cannot agree on whether it is appropriate for her to read my email and mail without permission. Not that she does it. She feels that an unwillingness to let her read these things represents a lack of sharing. I feel that reading my private communications without permission shows a lack of trust and is good old fashioned snooping. I understand her point of view but also I am a writer and there are so many things on my computer like novels and poems that are private, embarressing and unfinished. What do you think?
2006-08-30 21:43:31 · 15 answers · asked by MOTOR PANTS OF MEXICO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hmmmm... I don't open my husband's mail or email and same for him.... It's private.. not that your hiding anything....you share everything and it's not as if you are not letting her see it.. It's addressed to you so you should be the one who reads it first :)
2006-08-30 21:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by voddielots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in having my own privacy as well. My husband doesn't even have my computer password and it's not because I'm hiding anything. I just want my own space. I agree that it's a trust issue and you not wanting to share your private correspondence and such makes her think you're hiding something even though that's not the case. While I see where she's coming from it's a tough issue and I don't know what you can do to make her trust you. Maybe sharing a "portion" or a sample to her will help her understand that what you have there is really nothing to worry about. Afterall, she's your wife and you shouldn't worry too much about her judging what you wrote. I'm not suggesting showing her the whole thing but if she has an idea of the contents in your computer, maybe it will help to put her mind at ease.
2006-08-30 21:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong and if you don't read her stuff then she should respect your stuff. I know that I would writing things down in a journal that can be misinterpreted because I was trying to focus on a issue that could give the other hurt feelings or worst make the other person do something foolish. If you had a diary would that be considered private same with emails and snail mail. If you were complaining to a friend about your spouse would you talk to your friend the same way as your spouse the answer is no.
2006-08-31 05:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are right in your own ways, however the bottom line goes that the mail shouldnt prove to be a problem between you two. Just explain her that its not sharing but just a kind of space or privacy that you require from her. Anything addressed to you gives you the right to ahead with it.
2006-08-30 21:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by raj c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you got to hide? You should learn to share everything with her and quit being so secretive that is why she is checking up on you?
You probably have something you are hiding. I don't trust men like you and I hope she don't either. My boyfriend was like that too he raised a big fuss at me for talking on messenger. I came home early one day from work and caught him with a girl on cam. Oh and he said he never did things like that!
2006-08-30 22:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's not good.she doesn't need to read youre mail if she trust in you,i think the mails are private so like cellphone,and never let anyone to do something that you don't like,even if it's youre wife.i can't be agree with this cause mails are personal things
2006-08-30 22:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As Edna said:
"Yet this alone out of my life I kept
Unto myself, lest any know me quite;"
(Renascence, Sonnet VI -- Bluebeard)
However dearly we love, we remain human and subject to failings odious and common. I will never again tempt a lover with knowledge that, if betrayed, will destroy. "No," must be enough.
2006-08-30 22:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by Hal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you go through her e-mail? Have you ever given her any reason to not trust you? If no, she should respect your right to privacy, and your explanation sounds reasonable.
2006-08-31 11:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by archimedes_crew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you,i think mail is private and she should respect that.
2006-08-31 00:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all people are entitled to privacy. its a trust issue. opening ones mail be it email or snail mail, is wrong periord
2006-08-30 22:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋