we are living seperated for about two years.
He is forcing me to divorce him.
I am teaching in an institute and earning for my bread.
i have a daughter of two years.
2006-08-30 21:06:45 · 12 answers · asked by white rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that revenge is a bad thing. i want him to be punished because he gave me and my child much pain. Will he be punished by GOD. have you heard about anybody who have paid for their deeds.
2006-08-30 21:40:50 · update #1
The best form of revenge is success. With that said, I suggest that you seek legal advice and "C.W.A." (cover your... "fanny") so that he doesn't come back and try to rip you off financially.
He's "forcing" you to divorce him? No, it's obvious that you and he no longer have a life together, he's gotten on with his life and it's YOU who must now do the same, or should have done so already. Look, it was a mistake, it didn't work out... what's there to fight over... blame? That's childish and nothing will come of it but unnecessary grief and heartaches... leave it alone and get on with your life.
If he is the father of the child, make sure he provides for the child (Child Support), whether he wants a relationship with the child or not. Speak with your attorney and see if you can sue him for your legal fees (the divorce). It is still illegal, by the way, to commit adultery in NY but I do not know if it is where you live; find out and see if you can pursue this as leverage as you seek re-reimbursement for the legal fees you will incur for the divorce. Don't tell anyone (not any friends or relatives... keep YOUR business to yourself) and seek legal advice and have the Divorce Papers served without telling anyone. If he calls you afterward, tell him to speak with your lawyer (who will refuse to speak with him as a matter of legal practice; your attorney will only speak with HIS attorney).
Don't get an inexperience and "affordable" attorney; he's going to have the best possible attorney... in other words, he's going to get the best "gun-slinger" he can so you make sure you do the same! And stay on top of matters with your attorney. Keep everything documented (your meetings, your telephone conversation and how long you speak and what you spoke about and dates thereof... etc).
Get on with your life, forget him; you have a career ahead of you, a wonderful life with a child... be thankful that you're no longer with him (why aren't you celebrating?)
2006-08-30 21:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I guess love already don't exist between both of you, so why still holding on to it, it better to divorce. Morer importantly is how it will affect your daugther. As for revenge, there no right or wrong, end of the day you must ask yourself what the outcome/result you want?If revenge will make you feel better, just go ahead. But make sure it don't leave a bitter taste after it
2006-08-31 04:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by alan99678 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand why is he forcing you to divorce him, is he running away from paying allimony or ????
If i m in your shoes i kick him out asap cos u are under employment and get a solicitor to obtain custody of your child make him pay allimony for ur child.
Always think that he is losing something cos he never know how to appreciate ppl who loves him.
I m sure u will find someone who will love you oneday. NO need to take revenge it'll hurt you more. Be professional, ppl will respect you in that way.
Take care & God Bless
2006-08-31 04:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by angelinecja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it sounds like you have anger issues and is that the attitude you want your kid to see? If it is then you are doing even more damage than you think. Try getting some help for yourself and get on with your own life you only have one and wasting it on revenge is such a waste of time.
2006-08-31 09:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look back, just move on.
Taking revenge only satisfies the feeling but not the need. There are no winners in the end but loosers.
Just leave him alone and let him learn his own lessons
2006-08-31 04:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by _ai_ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really wise for you to do that... revenge always has negative effects... what if you take revenge on him and he gets back at you... If i was you i wud leave him and move on... One life make the most of it... U will find the right man who wud love u for who u r.....
2006-08-31 04:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by UK GUY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All is fair in love and war
2006-08-31 04:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time tell him to f*** an american.
If NAFTA doesnt endorse it,neither should you....
2006-08-31 05:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wouldn't you want to divorce him? i don't understand your problem...
but no, just divorce him and move on with your life.
2006-08-31 04:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but don't get arrested and jailed for it.
2006-08-31 04:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋