its never okay to have an affair, seriously. If you love your wife and thats the only area she needs to work on then maybe you could make some suggestions to spice up your sex life, dont pressure her into anything she doesnt want to do but compliment her at what she does right and make some suggestions, talk more openly with her about her desires and about your desires and see if you can find some middle ground. Theres no reason to have an affair, If you arent happy in your relationship than you should leave. I know its easier said than done but it would hurt her and destroy everything you have together with an affair, and even if you do get past things and work them out forgiveness is easy to attain but its never easy for your partner to forget. Some people shouldnt marry for the simple fact that they arent ready to commit to a monogamous relationship, but seriously sweety if you love your wife and thats the only thing thats bothering you than just try some of these suggestions. If all else fails theres always porn....
;) and besides put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if she felt the same way and was asking the very same question you were. Goodluck with whatever you decide to do
2006-08-30 20:53:16
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answered by hearts_bleed_dark 3
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NO! It's never okay to have an affair. You both are in the relationship, its not a one sided thing. Maybe you are not satisfying her...so its not okay for her to go with someone else. You married her for better or worse,richer or poor,in sickness and in health...so when those times come, its not okay to take the easy (well seems easy at the time) way out. There are no circimstances that make it okay to have sex or any relationship outside of the marriage. shes your wife, and you didnt marry her because she was this award winning sexual partner...you married her because of the qualities that she has, and you love her...so love is deeper than sex my friend. maybe the two of you need to reconnect...try to become closer in your relationship. i wouldnt look at you as such a jerk if your question would have been "my wife doesnt satisfy me as well as id like, what are some things that we can do to make it better for the BOTH of us?" but instead you automatically thought of an affair. you jerky men need to get your mind off of affairs, if you arent ready to be a one woman man, dont get married...come on, you know from the get go if you can stay true to your woman or not. so no, its not okay to have an affair. maybe she isnt totally into the sexual experience either because she knows that you are just searching for a reason to have an affair. you two should talk, and figure out how you guys can connect on a spiritual level, between the two of you, that can really heighten the sexual pleasure between a husband and a wife.
2006-08-30 20:55:38
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answered by Anonymous
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If you do the right thing and don't have sex until you are married you never know how they will treat you after you get married. If they love you they will satisfy you sexually. I was stuck in a marriage like that before. I know how it feels. I got out; it was an awful situation. I would never go back to a marriage like that again. I could not imagine living the rest of my life that way. Now I have no sex drive and it doesn't matter anymore.
2006-08-30 21:20:04
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answered by Busy Lady 2010 7
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I think it's natural to want to be with other women. you're a guy and that's in our nature. if you go back in time men used to have more than one wife as a means to help populate the species. one woman could only have one baby every 9 months or so where as a man could father many children in that time. It's something in our nature BUT you are not an animal you're a man and what seperates us is the ability to avoid things that society sees as morally wrong. A lot of people do have affairs but just look at all the answer and you'll see the majority of them are NO. Talk to you wife tactfully about what is going on or seek some counseling. try to work things out first. good luck
2006-08-30 20:57:47
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answered by JJ 2
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Absolutely not! At one time she evidently did satisfy you! Are you going through the middle age crisis thing? Have you encourage her to do what you like? Do you think the grass is greener on some one Else's bed! Maybe you should see a counselor for both of you. You may be surprised to see what her feelings may be! None of us are perfect, not even you!
Don't feel to bad about it. A female college professor did a study and found 51% of women cheat and 49% of men cheat! Of course this is so close, you may as well say it is a 50/50 deal. So women are just as big of being a sex dog as men! It may mean she is getting her's elsewhere, there is a 50/50 chance!
2006-08-30 20:49:15
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answered by Anonymous
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just think about it the other way around...would you like her looking out for another man who could give her better ooohs? settle it in the first place...you might be a little after your satisfaction only which is definitely a sexual turn-off for women...it needs two to tango...push the right buttons and be patient it will definitely come reciprocated. and of course wifeys are not whores that are all for f!#32n around. know how to make her feel good and show her that her efforts are appreciated then for sure she would be more enthusiastic into making sack sessions more satisfying for you both. try to be content also.......
2006-08-30 21:31:23
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answered by ashlee-fia 2
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Absolutely not .. its not okay. If you are not satisfied with your relationship, or activity then find away to fix it. There are so many ways to spice up a relationship or a marriage .. if you are unsure how to do that - there is a lot of how-to books, how-to dvds and last but not least a lot of toys to add into the fun. If you are still going to go out, then leave the relationship.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-08-30 20:46:24
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answered by jaredsmommy2004 6
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First think what you wud have felt if your wife wud have done the same if you were not able to keep you happy. You men are selfish.. when u marry someone, u r supposed to be together thru thick n thin. Wud suggest u go thru some therapy but affair shud be a taboo.
2006-08-30 20:54:24
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answered by PC 1
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Why do you judge the matter when you a party to this judgment. This unjust and unfair, what proofs can you bring that it is not you who is the source of the problem. problems like that are physical, emotional, psychological etc.., so first decide which to be fair with her and yourself then start looking to **** around. actually most do have extramarital relations and a great part is deficient sexually.
2006-08-30 20:50:53
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answered by Anonymous
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it's never ok to have an affair. remember your wedding vows? i don't care if she doesn't satisfy you sexually. you made a commitment to your wife and you should keep your word!
2006-08-30 20:50:37
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answered by mymymissmai 3
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