Hi,
I'am a mom and married for 8yrs. I have developed a crush on a guy at my workplace who is older to me and is unmarried. I try to avoid him everytime but the feeling keeps bugging me. How do i get rid of this feeling as i feel very guilty everytime his thought comes to y mind. He is a very shy and softspoken guy and is very nice to me. Any suggestions??????????
2006-08-30 20:26:39 · 7 answers · asked by Libran 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you cherish your husband and family, bring yourself to realize that it's just a natural attraction between the woman that you are and another man.
Before being a mother and a wife, you are a woman. Which means that by nature you will never cease to be attracted to men!The same goes for your husband; its only normal and healthy.
The line in the sand lies on whether or not you are willing to put your interest into action. If you have something you value more [it is needless for me to suggest that it be your husband and child] then you will leave it at what it is --- a crush.
It will pass, you'll go on and be happy with life.
P.S. To accelerate the process, avoiding him would be a good idea.
;-)
Take care
2006-08-30 21:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by suryen23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I’ve recently read an article about “occupational marriages.” There is a woman that I work with and we really get along, in a way, an “occupational wife.” She is married and I will never do anything to disrespect that. Marriage may not be an institution that I agree with (due to my unlucky experience) but I will always respect it’s sanctity. In other words, if you can keep it platonic, you may make a very productive couple. And I mean that in a good way.
2006-08-31 03:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by no--yes--maybe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are not all that unusual. You're only human and its a natural occurrence. I suggest you enjoy it secretly and usually the infatuation will pass.
On the other hand if you venture to succumb to this, I would advise you to think long and hard and consider your children and husband first. A wrong move here can literally cause a lot of harm and wreck havoc on your life.
2006-08-31 03:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. I'm a gay man feeling the same way about a straight co-worker.
Long story short, I think this is normal. People can get close at work and relate in ways that they may not with their spouses/partners. When you think about the # of hours we work with others compared to our spouses, it is uncanny. Just apprecitate the differences but realize that work is the boundary.
For instance, this guy is married and about to have his 1st child, and I'm so excited for him. I'm close to him because maybe that's something I may not have, but also because my lifestyle is so different from his, it keeps our work like interesting, and we are very close.
You can help the shy guy out of his shell, but realize what the worth really is. Don't jeopordize what you have now, but try to incorporate the appreciation you have for this guy into your marriage. Let it find your spark.
2006-08-31 03:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest either you stop acting like a dog in heat or you go home and tell your family you don't need them any more and go your separate ways..Cheating SUCKS!!!
2006-08-31 03:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another job, then call him and ask him out! Many employers view is that you don't get your sex and pay check at the same place!
2006-08-31 03:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to think of all the bad stuff he does
2006-08-31 03:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by @Ð!Ŋ@♥Đ@Ŋ¡ Ə╚☺® 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋