i have 2 children from him and they are with my laws. i am new married and i love my second husband so much and he loves me too. my x husband always calls my mother and promise her to change himself and will do his effort to make me happy. but i am in deep love with my current husband and i am happy with him ..but i am afraid about my kids' future...specially i can't raise them up in my new life. plz give me advice..
2006-08-30 20:15:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are so deeply in love with your new husband, why would you even consider going back to your ex? Why'd you get divorced in the 1st place if you're so afraid of your kids' future? How confusing would that be for them?? You get divorced, get a new husband, divorce him, then go back to husband #1? You also said that your ex calls your mom promising to change himself & make you happy, he didn't/couldn't do this before??? Why'd it take him so long to decide to do that now? Almost sounds like he's just lonely, sees you happy with your new husband, and he wants that too. Maybe if he had someone in his life, he wouldn't be wanting to reconcile with you.
2006-08-30 20:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you got married you came as a hole package meaning you and your two children. Your new husband has to realize that you are a mother of two children and that they are part of you. Your kids need you. Give your kids a stable home live, that's what they need and deserve. Why can't you raise your kids with your new husband? If he doesn't like your kids, forget him and look for a new husband.
2006-08-30 20:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not see your point...
If you are in love with your new husaband and he is in love with you, it means that you have a very happy life together, don't you? This means that your children are growing in a good family environment, which provides them with love, understanding and support, so... why do you say that you can not raise them in your new life? What are you frightened of?
They way it reads, I guess your new husband loves you not but not the kids?
If this is the case, why did you marry him?
If you think that they miss their father, you can always let them with him over the week-end set by the judge.
2006-08-30 20:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by ngiapapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunni, this is the way i see it, you divorced this guy for a reason, and usually if it's enough for you to end it then it's not going to change. If you love the guy that your with so much then stay married to him, but don't let him keep you from your kids. It's something that he needs to understand that you gave birth to those kids, and you need them as much as they need you. forget about the ex, and if the new husband doesn't want you to have your kids forget aobut him too, find someone who loves you for you and your kids because their part of you and who you really are. don't hide yourself, and don't let someone walk all over you like that. take care. hope this helps.
2006-08-30 20:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first remember why u divorced him in the first place. Wouldn't that problem still be a problem?
Your life is now committed to husband 2. You are a legal family.Don't mess things up with number 1 again.
Why r the children not with you? They should be your priority.
2006-08-30 20:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be with your kids if you are in love with the new man and he don't want your kids let him go now or let him show you that he loves you by helping you get them back the kids need you
2006-08-30 21:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sensible that in view that they stay mutually she both feels that she has the right to assist w/ the co-parenting or he provides her the right. you want to first exhibit to him that it bothers you and ought to choose that the contact come rapidly from him. notwithstanding, if she resides in the domicile and is there even as the toddler visits you ought to decrease her some slack besides....after all, she ought to instruct little interest on your toddler, then how ought to you sense?!? I imagine that's troublesome that she is area of the rationalization for your marital discord, yet you ought to also recollect that it took both one in all them, she changed into not on my own.
2016-11-23 15:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only praying you'll find the answer.
Even if you're new married in front ofGod you're still his wife till you die/he dies. We live in this world that has changed all good in
bad, Take good care!
2006-08-30 20:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kids are always first and if your marriage with this new guy was so good why is he not helping you get your kids? ask for his help start a plan
2006-08-30 20:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget him you are re married! plus if you are so inlove why are you even asking? you must not really love the new guy! move on , forget the past
2006-08-30 20:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋