What do you do if you found out that your husband has an affair for 2 years and you have 2 kids?

Answer 1

this is pretty tricky due to the kids involved as well as the lenght of time involved in the affair. you must be really upset and lost and i can understand your insecurities and anger towards your husband. nontheless, it will be useful to sit down and have a serious talk with him regarding this issue (give yourself sometime to cool down first). check your heart also, whether you have any room to forgive him and work together to iron out the sensitive issues involved. most importantly, you have to think what is the best for your kids no matter what happens in the future. do not be ashame to talk to a person that you trust about it too..it'll help you loads to talk it out..

Answer 2

Well I would leave him cuz im sure ur very hurt, and u having kids doesn't change anything, they're not a reason for u to stay with him, if ur not happy it's not healthy. For a husband to cheat and risk his family, i would make the divorce as painful as possible for him cuz abviously he wasn't concerned about how this could effect u and his childrens lifes forever. Basically he put the pu*#y first, and thats not right, a guy like that deserves no respect. It's understandable if he was up front with u 2 yrs ago, to let u know he was some how unhappy, so yall could work on it, then if nothing worked, u and him decide together on what to do whether to separate or whatever, instead of wasting the last 2 yrs or ur life, U could have moved on and been happier by now. And if u feel u love him to much to leave or scared to be without him, think of it this way, wouldn't u rather be hurt one big time in ur life and move on, or keep getting hurt over and over. Cuz finding out ur husband was cheating for the past 2 yrs, if u decide to stay with him, u will be constantly reminded of it every time, he comes home late, or doesn't answer the phone, u'll never trust him again. It wasn't like a 1 night stand I made a mistake, it made me realize how much i don't want to lose u, It was a 2 year now respect for my wife and children thing.

Answer 3

I know the most unbearable thing is to talk but u have to talk to your husband to find out the root of the problem. If he does not love u anymore and in order not to affect the kids, he still married to u but want an affair.. then i think u can divorce him and tell the kids in a very light manner... if it is because he had other problems.. maybe u shld listen and see u bear some responsiblity in his affair.. if not, i feel that since the love betweem the 2 of u is gone.. the best is to separate and be frens...

Answer 4

What do you feel like doing? Obviously he was doing it just for the fun of it and had no intentions on leaving you. When men have or create an opportunity they are going to do it. Do you want to give up on your marriage? Do you still love your husband? The chances are very great that if you divorce and meet another man, he will cheat to. Do you give up on someone you love and take a chance you may never find someone to love again? Talk to him about it. Don't let him tell you that you had anything to do with is cheating, that is all rubbish. He chose to do it. You could be giving him sex every day and he would do it with another woman. Just talk about it and see if you can resolve your feelings of hurt that you are probably feeling. Seek marriage counseling if you think that will help.

Answer 5

The question is, was he cheating on you or was he cheating on her. What i mean is, is he looking to work things out, or was it that he didn't want to divorce because of kids and $$$. You have to find that out,and you move on from there. I would leave my hubby, i understand being drunk and cheating, but to be with the same person for 2 years there is emotions, which is the worst type of cheating.

Answer 6

I would divorce if it were me, because I don't think I could get over anything like that. The only way I could take someone back that done that to me is to make their life a living h*ll. I just can't forget and forgive that easily. It all depends on how you fell really though. Good luck.

Answer 7

Hello honey.. If i were you, i will take the kids and leave the house..

then dont let him know where you are.. but only leave the contact number for him to reach you (if you want to).

Trust me, he will defintely come hunting for you.. By then, if you still love him, ask him to decide what/who he really wants. make him stop all his bull **** affair.. if he choose to continue with his affair, then file a divorce, i know is difficult, but this is life..

But if you choose to leave him.. immediately file a divorce..

It's sad to know that this has happen to you. But i still wish you all the best... And please try to be strong.. Please Dont give up your child..

Answer 8

2 Years! And He has'nt been Man enough to tell You?! KICK Him to the Curb! Your Children Always Come First, ALWAYS. Even at the expense of your happiness, because in the end when all is said and done, Your Children will be there for you. God-Bless and Good-Luck.

Answer 9

Well if it was something that just happened once yea maybe could be more tolerated!!But for him to have a affair for 2 years omg no way in hell.I would leave him in a heart beat regardless of kids.You only live once and you must be happy its your life.and your kids don't need to grow up in such a broken home,cause believe me its only going to get worse from here!!So leave his sorry butt pack his stuff up and tell him to go live with his other lover,and get ready cause now its your turn to be screwing him over..in court that is!!Good luck!

Answer 10

Well you should be glad that the matter has come to light. Check wat is the cause of this stray? Is there a possibilty of patching up again for the sake of your young child.

But i know how it hurts, but wat can we do when things happens beyond our control. Should u opt to divorce him , make sure u apply with court for allimony . Try to get custody of your child, they are the most innocent ones when a marriage breakup happens.

Last but not least remember its not the end of the world when ur husband no longer loves u, cos u know why??? U dunno they are many ppl out there, who can love u more than wat ur husband can give u.

Take a break. Think hard. Ur heart knows best wat u want

Good luck and god bless and my love to your children