I find myself ragging on every mistake my wife makes., no matter how small it is I still point out every little thing she does wrong. I tell myself that it is because I want her to know which things bug me, but the truth may be that I think I am superior to her in some way. Am I wrong for pointing out those errors in judgement to her. Or am I simply trying to prevent us from arguing and so forth over the same issues on a weekly basis?
2006-08-30 20:03:03 · 9 answers · asked by Michael H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are too critical..Yes she may make kistakes but you don't have to rag her about them...Why not say something nice to her ..How nice she looks , I love you or anything nice.......You might find how much she likes it and appreciates it and in turn will love you more...But you have to let her know how you feel ...Tell her...Everyone needs to know they are loved
2006-08-30 20:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bringing your problem to yahoo and expressing it the way you did shows maturity and concern for yourself and your wife! congrats! Not many men have a heart like yourself. Now, that that is out of the way....what do YOU think is the reason for pointing out her mistakes? Ask youself this one, do you feel like if she stopped doing the ''little things'' that bothered you, that you would be
A) happy & relieved that she finally stopped or B) feeling the need to find something else to complain about? I hope you find your answer. good luck :)
2006-08-30 20:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you see it, someone else doing it and look at your self and say crap I'm like that. It happened to me, being the oldest sibling I'm very controlling and as you did i was very judgemental...I married a guy who to is the eldest and he was is the same way. I stopped because through him doing it i saw the pain i was causing...Im now the nice one....He still needs work.....
2006-08-30 20:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a complex that needs to be dealt with real soon, LIKE NOW!!! my husbands was just like you...... I finaly told him to back off, lay off, or else.... I started judging him, and believe me, he did not find it pleasant...... you need to stop and look at urself...... r u sooooooooooo perfect ?? do you have that right ?? NO WAY..... ppl or ppl and we all make mistakes..... some mistakes, yes, need to be pointed out.... but NOT in a judgmental way.......... so YOU need to calm down, back off, or take the chance of loosing her...... that simple......... God bless
2006-08-30 20:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong for being honest. It better than you keeping it to yourself and explode one day.
I believe when u love some one you have right to tell wat is wrong and right, but when u dont love her anymore please dont abuse her if she does any mistake cos u hv no rights anymore
Ur wife is lucky to have you but dont be too hard on her. Keep the love going on and see your children grow and grow old with your wonderful family.
Take care & God Bless
2006-08-30 20:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by angelinecja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's Good to do that...YES! BUT what's going to happend is that she is going to FIND somebody else ...and as soon as she hears a GOOD COMMENT about her she will leave U!!! Don't be so cruel..I mean who is perfect in this world.....SIT her down and TALK once and 4 all...BUT YOU also listen to what she has to say about U!!!
ok? Good luck!
2006-08-30 20:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"LOL" It could be!" I was married six "and" a half years
and i hav,t to admit "Your probally just answered your own question!" There is no perfect married couple out there "Try working this marriage thing out." "If it continues to be a problem "Seek counseling." "And another thing friend; "Let up on your spouse "Thats not helping!" "Your driving her away!"
2006-08-30 20:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by "Ronnie The Chosen" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because something is missing...we don't know what real love is ...God is love we don't have to say a lot of words (bad!) but pray pure and simple...but we forget to pray, we're not used to...LOve her with all your heart and pray for you both and for the entire world...we have to sopt being selfish, too proud, etc.sorry if i said something that you didn't like!
2006-08-30 20:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause it sucks
2006-08-30 20:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋