2006-08-30 19:32:52 · 28 answers · asked by Peter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-08-30 19:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Tarique M 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
First off, it is good that you recognize that you can't share your feelings with anybody. When you share feelings, not just how you feel today kind of stuff, but I imagine you mean, deep feelings, it is about yourself, how much confidence you have in yourself, and how you feel your self worth is. It is also about getting over possibly from past hurt, rejection and handling that, so that you can trust and care and share your feelings again one day. It is not something that happens overnight. It takes time, and it would be good if you found a good therapist(one recommended by family or friends)who you are comfortable with and want to talk. They would be able to help you recognize why you haven't been able to share feelings, even with people you are very close with. It is not always an easy journey but it is worth it! I also think, and I am not a feminist or anything like it, that males in general have a more difficult time sharing their feelings. It has been shown in studies that the male brain is connected in short spurts from thoughts to emotions and ability to express versus women who have loads of thoughts, feelings and ability to express them! It is just how we are wired differently in our brains but that's what makes life so interesting! I wish you all the best and may you one day be able to feel good about yourself, and in others, to trust and share........be patient, don't be hard on yourself, and hang in there! Keep smiling! Life is always changing and things do get better, I promise you.
2006-08-30 19:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a number of psychological conditions that can cause that. It's often a sign of an overcontrolling parent, or it can be an inherent disorder. If it's a serious problem, have some therapy. If it's just a mild character defect, then it's probably best just to consider it as part of your personality and work on telling people around you how you feel. I should probably say that it's not even always a flaw. Not opening yourself up to those around you can stop you from getting hurt. It's not always a problem. There are just some problems that can cause it. Good luck.
2006-08-30 19:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't it's lack of trust. I think it's lack of confidence. I 'm just like you. I have a hard time sharing my feelings with my husband, with whom I share children!!! Take a deep breath, take your time, make sure your focusing on the main issue at the time (don't go off on tangents), but if you feel secure in the positive regard for the people who are close to you, then reward that positive regard with sharing. Like one of the other answers, don't be selfish. It's not fair to the people who are close to you to have to guess your feelings all the time. Think about someone else's feelings, it can only make you closer.
2006-09-07 07:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by tara k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel I am going through this problem right now but there is always someone you can trust so always remember that. Dont keep your feeling bottled up because if you hold in your feelings for too long, everything is just going to come all out under pressure.
2006-09-07 10:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by Skinny Minnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way. It takes a long time to get to know me, therefore I only have a couple of really close friends. I think it's OK though.
2006-08-30 19:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to share your feelings with somebody else? Are you fearful of something? You should ask yourself what is really holding you back. Only you can answer that question?????
2006-09-07 12:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by robin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im the same way ive been hurt in the past by everyone, friends, parents, girfriends, and somtimes i think im just sick of being hurt so if nobody knows i care then what could they do to hurt me if they think "I dont care" i think when the time is right my feelings will show likewise to you...
2006-08-30 19:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by Freeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are very shy and you get easily embarrassed, maybe? Let it out and share your feelings here. We are here for you buddy!
2006-08-30 19:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i agree....sometimes it is hard to share your deepest feelings with anyone...but you shouldnt keep everything to yourself....you need to let it out somehow.
i guess ur just a kind of person who prefers to keep things to himself...it isnt wrong to do that....but it does make it a bit difficult for ppl to get to know you.
just try opening up a bit more.
=)
2006-08-31 02:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by pr89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of guys find it hard to share there feelings just say what you feel, it will get easier
2006-08-30 21:26:12 · answer #11 · answered by Sandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋