I HAD a gal-friend (we used to be best friends until about 7 years ago, when she got so selfish it just caused me to not even care to be around her anymore. April was the last time I saw her. I've called 4 times since then, & she hasn't returned any calls.& she knew I was moving; I changed my move date, but I hvn't told her. She knows my #s (2) & my email. I've 'saved' her from suicide, been her maid of honor for 2 of her marriages (she's on #9) & she disses me like these last 4 months (this isn't the 1st time).& I'm fed up being her enabler. I hope she has a good life...it'll sure be without me. I just realized she's really never been a friend.
I'm not running away, or looking for the grass to be greener, but I'm really looking forward to this upcoming move. I'd like some serious opinions/thoughts on how you guys feel about 'starting over'. Do you think there's a time when it's normal to shake off old 'friends' and look forward to meeting new ones?
2006-08-30 19:28:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of course as you mature as a person, there are some people that you just can no longer be friends with. It's normal.
One good place to make new friends is work. Since you're moving, I'm guessing you're getting a new job? Another good place is school. Take a class and meet new people there. Special interest classes are especially helpful because you'll meet someone with a common interest.
It's best to forget about this girl. I have/had a friend like her. They're not worth the stress and time. They're of no benefit to you and friends aren't supposed to be that way. You'll be happy when you have new people around and she'll probably regret her poor choices when she needs you again and you're not available to her. Good for you for taking the first step in moving on with your life.
2006-08-30 20:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be a true friend to have one. You're other friend maybe was never really your friend. Or maybe she's just going through some stuff right now and not being as selfish as you think. Write her a letter. .Let her know how you feel but try not to accuse her. Maybe you'll get the answers you need. If not, move on.
Of course you should look forward to meeting new people. Even if you don't shake your old friends off, you can still make new ones. There's not a limit to how many you can have.
By the way, all friends are true friends or they're not friends at all.
2006-08-30 19:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find that i have a lot of friends but none i have known for very long. i had 2 best friends years ago who moved away and lost contact with. i try to find them with no luck.perhaps they were married and changed their names. i hope you have good luck in findingtrue friends. if you do don't lose them.
2006-08-30 19:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by mypurpleelephant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!! That girl is not your friend, and never was. Get out, join clubs and groups in your new community and talk with people who are as caring as you seem to be.
Best wishes,
Flamingo
2006-08-30 19:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't read this whole thing to long, but feel the same as you but don't want to depend on a bunch of friends they drive you crazy anyways with there lives mine is so busy as it is.
2006-08-30 19:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont look so hard and yourr ture frined might be right in front of you!
2006-08-30 19:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋