we have only been dating for over a year, he hates my daughter because he cant see his son and he makes me choose between them and all we do is fuss over her. he hates my whole family too. he controls my life already. please give me advice
2006-08-30 19:26:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
i am only 20 with a 2 year old lil girl who he refers to as a mean *** lil brat. he always puts me down and and calls me sorry when he made me quit my job. he hates everyone in my family. today he got mad because i had to pick up my brother at work so he busted my windsheild on My Car. all we do is fuss and everywhere we go he loooks girls up and down. we i try to break up with him he goes crazy and cries to make me feel bad and it works every time. he always says he is making the mistake by being involved with me but wont let me leave. i need some advice.
2006-08-30 20:00:14 · update #1
Melissa listen to me get him away from you and your daughter. he is no good for you or your daughter. Go get a restraining order against him so that he cannot come back around you. And for heaven sakes dont marry him. youll only live to regret it if you do. you said it yourself that he hates your daughter and your family, he probably hates you too but he dosent let that show because he is afraid if he does then youll make him leave and he dosent wont to make that change. Not because he loves you but because hes only thinking about hisself. PLS LISTEN TO WHAT IM TELLING YOU GIRL IF YOU EVER LISTENED TO ANYTHING IN YOUR LIFE DO IT FOR YOUR DAUGHTER, KICK THE S.O.B. ON THE CURB ON HIS A**
2006-08-30 19:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by needsum 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope you have not gotten yourself into a situation where you and your daughter are financially dependent on this creep. You know what you need to do, it is not even very subtle in the way you worded your question.
Leave, get self sufficient so that you never, ever have to be in this position again. It is a bad example for your daughter. You will form better and lasting relationships when you both come to the union as equals. This cretin is beyond hope. Don't even try and get him to change, move on. Start with a clean slate.
2006-08-30 19:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out. Life is too short & no sex is that good that you can't find it somewhere else. You and your family are a package. He needs to accept all of them, especially your daughter. If you let him control that portion of your life he will never stop. Then we will be hearing about you on court tv. Face the issue head on now and get out. A true man wouldn't make you choose between you and your daughter. Also, you may want to question why he can't see his son.
2006-08-30 19:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by ugcj10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GET MARRIED! You can see the problems and if you get married you will make it worse. Your daughter needs to be the most important person in your life and if someone hates her, then you should not be with them. He needs to get his own act together. He controls your life and doesn't like your family= He doesn't care about you. It would only get worse for you if you got married, don't bring your daughter in that situation because children are eye witnesses to everything. You wouldn't want your daughter to see your problems because just imagine what strain it would be on her.
2006-08-30 19:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe both of you are just pressured from your upcoming wedding but if the fuss goes out of control maybe you should think if you really want to spend the rest of your life with him. in marriage, you marry not only the person but his whole family and so is he. so why tie the knot with someone who hates your family and the person i know is of great importance to you-your daughter...but the decision is yours to make. if you can go through all this for all your life then go ahead after all love conquers all..
2006-08-30 19:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, please sweety don't take this abuse, he does not love you! Anybody that does not love your precious baby does not love you, hate is a strong word, he could hurt your girl, could you live with that! Go stay with a friend or family member and call him to end it, you Will need to cry no matter how bad the relationship is. He will come crying too, but remember your girl, she needs a man to be a daddy. My father was my step-dad and I thank God for him and miss him (1932-1991) please give that girl a daddy not a jealous loser.
2006-08-30 19:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE DON'T GO THROUGH WITH THE MARRIAGE, both for you and your daughter's sake. How can a man love you and not accept the whole of you(that includes your daughter)?? Your doubts are the warning signs, heed them otherwise you'll regret having married this guy. besides family is family, this should rank top priority especially with the man you're going to marry.
2006-08-30 19:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by true68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should break it off- you are afraid for a good reason, because you know your life will be worst given the circumstances, better to have a broken engagement , than a broken marriage, Look hard, before you leap and know what rock you will fall on.
2006-08-30 19:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~Sounds like a relationship made in heaven. Hell, you've been with the guy for over a year. The rest of your life will seem like a weekend if you marry this dude. (and I'll give even money it may only last a weekend.) Go for it.
2006-08-30 19:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why in the world would you need advice when you can re-read your own words.
don't put your daughter through the hell he can visit into your lives.
either the two of you get onto some common ground, and he steps back about 12 paces and regroups, and becomes a decent human being, or just cut it loose.
2006-08-30 19:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋