Well... I'm stuck between 2 girls. I like them both but I like them in different ways. The one let's call her (1)...I think of as a friend (a really really good friend). She's been there for me and helped me out alot.
The other...lets call her (2) i've liked for some time now, and im pretty sure she likes me.
(1) has helped me out in trying to get a date with (2). So we had it set up for toinght. (2) never showed. All of her friends said that she usually does this to guys. So I felt kinda bad but decided to stay and have fun with (1) because she was there too.
So me and (1) hung out and...well got kinda close. She tried to kiss me a few times but I resisted seeing as how i'm not totally sure of my feelings for her. Then i get home and (2) calls me and tells me why she couldn't make it. I called around and sure enough it what she said was true. (It was a legitimate reason for not being able to go).
So, I wanna know...how do I go about this without hurting 1 of them?
2006-08-30 19:24:58 · 4 answers · asked by skillsusa_california 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you can't unless they want each other
2006-08-30 19:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a couple of things come to mind (and they will probably be more confusing then helpful)
1. Nothing messes up a good friendship more than sex.
2. To have a successful relationship, you need your lover to be your friend as well.
I guess you need to think about it. (1) has been a great friend for you, and will probably continue to be. But (1) has let you know she is interested in you, and won't wait forever. (2) doesn't seem to be a huge deal for you, seems to be some girl you like, although she doesn't sound like she has a good track record for dating, and since you felt that you had to verify her story, you have to ask yourself if you would be able to work on trusting her in the future.
So are you ready to get into a serious relationship, or do you want to play a little more before you settle down? If you are not ready to commit, I would maintain the friendship with (1), but explain to her where you are at in your life. If you think that (2) is really worth pursuing then go there....LOL, I'm not sure...I think I have confused myself!
2006-08-31 02:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by akice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you totally and obviously have your answer. Drop 2 and go with 1. I mean there is other ppl out there saying that 2 is always not showing up for guys that ask her out. And just because she has a legitimate excuse this time, doesn't mean she will always have one. So I say go with 1, that has always been there for you. I mean you know her feelings if you guys were getting close, so go for it with her.
2006-08-31 03:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...interesting situation. ok, see you should see a friend in your lover. why don't you talk to 1. talk to her very freely and tell her what your situation is. since she's a friend, im sure she'l help you out of this mess too.
remeber one thing - love someone who loved you and not whom you want to love.
good luck
2006-08-31 02:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by rahulnraul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋