My friend just found out she's pregnant. She's 19, and this was an unplanned pregnancy by a one-night stand. We haven't really been talking for the last 3 years or so, but I was wanting to reconnect with her for some time now. We were close best buddies up until 3 years ago. How should I reconnect with her, I really want to. She lives in another city too. I do have her e-mail address, would it be wise to e-mail her about this or is it too delecate a subject to talk about this over the internet? Please advise me, thank you.
2006-08-30 18:38:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I heard it through the grape vine of a small town. Were both from the same town, and another friend told me about it. This friend keeps close contact with her.
2006-08-30 19:21:58 · update #1
If three years have passed since you've been in contact, she is probably seeking support from folks who are currently part of her life. You could send her a note letting her know you are thinking about her and let her take what action she chooses. Understand that she has a lot on her mind, and may not respond or want to discuss what is going on. You could try again in a few months.
2006-08-30 18:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Garth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't been talking for the last 3 years, how did you find out that she is pregnant? I would email her and say that you would like to reconnect again, if she is open to it. I am also wondering what happened in the first place that you both stopped being friends. I don't know what else to say.
2006-08-31 01:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by joandi_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
email her with a is it congrats or a im sorry what can i do to help type of thing for example you could say hi i hear you are expecting are you excited or do you need to talk about it and see how she responds she may need to talk just keep giving her encouragement and help her in any way you can she will be scared but will also know that she has a friend in you to help her threw tough times that will mean more to her than not getting in touch with her if you don't get in touch with her that will tell her that the time you all where best friends didn't mean much to you so she will need a good friend now more than ever good luck
2006-08-31 01:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1-get the book Doormat (READ IT)
step 2- call friend or visit email is bad idea
step 3-discuss options without judgement ( only if she wants ) adoption,abortion,etc
step 4- be their when she needs to talk
2006-08-31 01:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E-mail this, " the last three years have been really lonely without you in my life. I've missed you a great deal. Lets get together real soon. I have so much to tell you." Then call her the next day. Good luck!
2006-08-31 01:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not understand why you know your friend is pregnant since you are not talking with her for last 3 yrs. I assume you heard this news from your other friends that also know her.
It is very good you reconnect with her.
2006-08-31 01:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by HappyWyatt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not the time to give a surprise to anybody.
So I think it is to mail her first for asking permission to reconnect, then u can proceed.
2006-08-31 02:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by N O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just e-mail her and say hi ask about how things are going. If she chooses to e-mail back then you could ask about it she may not want to keep it or may not be ready to talk about it. Just be a friend when she needs or wants it.
2006-08-31 01:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she tell you she is pregnant?
If not, it is extremely rude to call her up and say "hey, I hear you are pregnant".
You can reconnect but do NOT mention the pregnancy until she does.
2006-08-31 01:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should email her and tell how you feel and that you felt bad when you all lost contact and that you want to get y'all friendship back and if she told you that she is pregnant then tell her that you will be there for her and the baby as much as you can and if y'all get back to being friends then take a trip to see her that will also help that way she will really know that you want y'all friendship back
2006-08-31 01:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by sassyladytee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋