2006-08-30 18:35:20 · 21 answers · asked by rosie768 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if you are financially, emotionally, physically and mentally ready, you can have children....if you are not ready, it will be a burden to you. it's up to you to decide.
2006-08-30 18:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by jims_bong 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a personal choice that should be made between you and your husband. But here is my advice. I suggest waiting a few years after marriage. Enjoy being married. Enjoy the freedom of being able to pick up and go somewhere for the day or the weekend and not have to think about a baby. My husband and I were married 2 years before I got pregnant and it was the best thing we could have ever done. There were times that we would wake up on Saturday morning and say lets drive to the beach(2 hrs away) but with a baby you cannot do that. There is so much involved. Also I know this sounds crappy but you need to make sure that your marriage is going to last. The first 2 years are the hardest and throwing a baby into that mix will make it harder. Don't get me wrong babies are great but they require alot of attention and money. make sure that you and your husband are ready for one before jumping into it. GOOD LUCK. I hope that I have helped you even if it was just a little bit.
2006-08-30 18:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the level that you and your spouse are at. If you are financially and emotionally secure from the get go then having children right away is perfectly fine. Then again, children really do change who you are as an individual and a couple as well.. In my advice it is best to be married for two years before you start trying to concieve.
2006-08-30 19:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately wait, get used to being a married couple. Grow together as a new "unit". You will be surprised at the difference in your relationship now that you are married. Even if you have known each other a while, marriage does change everything and kids even more so.
2006-08-30 18:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by gymfreak 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on many factors- if you can support them, if you are planning on furthering your education, if you can take at least couple of weeks off work to take care of them after birth, and last, but definitely not least, if you want them. Sometimes it's good (especially if the couple did not live together before they got married) to wait a couple of years to get used to living together without the added strain of having a child.
Personally, I have been waiting for 8 years, and I still do not plan on having them any time soon. There's too much going on in my life, and I like it as it is.
2006-08-31 05:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a specific answer for something like that. you wait if you feel that you need to be alone with your partner before binging a child to the world or if u feel u both are ready then theres no reason to wait. remember a baby is a life long commitment and there are no breaks from parenthood so make the decision based on your own personal situation and well being.
2006-08-30 19:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by M2aa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you just got married I would say at least wait a year. That way you both can get used to the life style of living together and be completly on your feet. And you make sure that hes ready for a baby... But you don't have to listen to me, do what makes you happy... Good Luck and Congrats on getting married
2006-08-30 20:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really just up to you and your spouse. I personnel would probably want to wait one to three years. Just to be able to enjoy live as a married couple. Now if I was a lot older when I got married say in my mid 30’s I might consider trying to start a family sooner. Having kids truly does change everything.
2006-08-30 18:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i saw this on the tv, women must conceive after 3 years of marriage or later. its because that gives them enough time and preparation for a new born. the man earns and saves quite more by the time the lady delivers resulting a better lad's future.
2006-08-30 20:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just an opinion, but I would prefer soon after marriage, like within a year because i believe its better to raise kids when you are younger and see them graduate and move on in life while your still at a ripe age. Overall its whats best for you and your partner.
2006-08-30 18:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by the_greatone 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we had the baby before marriage! i wouldn't concern yourself with "should"s - just have children when you are both ready and willing to take on parenting! depending on how long you've been together, maybe you've had enough time to yourselves already? If not, try to do as many things together as you want before you have a baby, because after that you might have to put vacations and things like that on hold for a while!
2006-08-30 18:54:23 · answer #11 · answered by .*AnNa*. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋