Ok, so i was dating this guy for about two months and everything was perfect. I met his parents and all his friends. He lived in a beautiful home that i always made sure was cleaned because he was always working. We werent living 2gther. And I also cooked for him. He was falling in love with me and i was falling for him. But just one week ago our relationship started to fall apart. There was a few days where I tried calling him and he never would answer my calls. He called me back a few days later to tell me that he couldnt be with me anymore and that he didnt think i deserved someone like him because he felt like he didnt have the time for me and for our relationship. He also told me that he's been drinking lately alot after work and he diddnt feel like he wanted to stop or needed help. I really love him and wish that he would give us a chance because we did have something really good and even everyone who knew us felt the same way. Should i move on or try to get him back????? :(
2006-08-30 18:27:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
DEFINITELY move on. For whatever reason, he does not want to be in this relationship. Be with someone who does. And just date - don't move in with another guy and risk getting burned again. Have your own place, your own space. Choose a better man next time. One who will respect you and treat you right. Good Luck.
2006-08-30 18:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by lalo m 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To be honest,but in a kind way,it really sounds
like he's moved on. He most likely got what he
wanted,and perhaps bragging material to tell
his friends about? many strange dudes still do
this sort of thing,but at least he called you &
told you what he thought in a round about way,
though he may have made up a few things,I
honestly think he wants you out of his life,and
didn't really want to hurt you.
He wants to move on,so you should too.
If you are really great,he will see it and you
won't be able to keep him away,but clingy
isn't attractive on anyone,so let him go.
enotalone.com is a good place to start and
lots of good tips too.
He'll come back if you matter to him,so let him
be the one to choose now that he's told you
all this,ok? For your selfesteem & confidence
if nothing else,do not call that man,ok?
2006-08-31 01:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just back off for a while. You probably scared him with all the cooking and cleaning. He may feel obligated to do more for you since you're doing so much for him. So right now he's just making excuses so that he won't have to. You need to reverse the situation and ignore him. Don't call him for awhile and sure he'll call you more and change his mind. It works every time.
2006-08-31 01:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by jade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like I said baby, to all people with this kind of situation.. it work both ways, if youthink you want to carry on, go and talkto him, Give this a chance.. unless he refuse the relationship than be gone! There are other life and people for you to fall inlove!
A piece of advise :
Love someone who truly loved you not someone you loved!
2006-08-31 01:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on. What does he have to do, try to kill you before you get the message he does not want to be with you?
He told you in hints (by not calling you back or taking your calls), then he tells you straight out he didn't want you, the best thing for you to do is move on. Don't wait and try to get back together with him, that would only cause you more heartache and grief than he is worth.
2006-08-31 01:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I went out with a guy once for just under two months. He broke up with me because he was doing his HSC and his parents were really strict about it. He said he didn't have the time. We havent been talking to eachother as much since then even though I was being my usual self. I hope it works out better for u. If it doesnt then there is some guy thats better for u.
2006-08-31 01:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well honey - that's a hard one. It depends on your intentions if you get him back. You can't change him. If he wants to drink after work, he'll drink after work - even if you don't want him to. He also has to be into you and ready for a loving relationship. Now if you think things are going to be great if you guys get back together, then go for it. Good Luck!
2006-08-31 01:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can do both at the same time...if you dont get him back within a ceritan amount of time move on. i know it may be hard because you really loved eachother and you still love him so try to take it easy hun and like i said, its possible to do both at the same time. jsut keep your heart open enough that if you would get back together there really wouldnt be no problem. good luck hun!!!
2006-08-31 01:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a hard one if booze wasn`t involved i`d say give him some time,but when booze comes into a relationship,it makes it hard..For now move on with your life and perhaps maybe he`ll let you be his friend,thats what he needs,and maybe in time he relize he needs help,and if not then mov eon,drunks are hard to handle
2006-08-31 01:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a young pretty girl , better forget him and move on , as he will not treat you well later , if you force him to accep you , please go away and find some one else and make it a point not to give this new person till you finally settled with him . Good luck .
2006-08-31 01:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋