Why do I always dream about being with another man?

Question

I am a married professional woman in my early 40's, no children. We've been married for 8 years now, but have been together for 13. I wouldn't say that our marriage is on the rocks, but I wouldn't say we're in our honeymoon stage either. Recently, I have been feeling a strong (not fatal or obsessive) attraction towards one of my customers. I even see him in my dreams having a romantic relationship with me. Because of these dreams and of constantly thinking about him, my feelings and attraction for him just keep getting stronger. What do these dreams mean? What's going on with me and what should I do?

Answer 1

I would venture a guess that you miss the excitement of a new relationship nothing new there, just try something new with your hubby before rushing to trade up

Answer 2

Because you''re a woman. Men don't have any corner on the market for thoughts like that. Women are just as bad/worse than men.

I know I seem a little 'bitter.' I am. None the less, the truth is the truth.

If you have "been feeling a strong feeling" then may I suggest you have the guts to tell your husband (yeah, he's the one you vowed to 'love, honor and cherish'). Marriage is, supposedly, a journey you take together. Let him in on your thoughts and see how he feels. Before you do, put yourself in his shoes.

Not that you matter, or ever will, but I wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire.

If it's over (and it is), tell him. Now. Give him the chance and the time to be happy.

Answer 3

romance is cotton candy, true love is what u do for each other. romance is only the 1st step of a relationship. there are other (i think) more important ones i.e. appreciating the experiences u shared weather good or bad, that create a bond between the 2 of u that will see u through all problems either trivial or important that life throws at us. emotional support is the most important feeling 2 people can give each other. pure romance is a heady feeling, but by it's very nature is shallow and superficial. we all spend too much time wanting the things we don't have instead of appreciating what we do have. i don't mean to be harsh, but keep the customer in ur drams and give more attention to ur marriage. maybe ur not putting enough into it. good luck.

Answer 4

I was completely infactuated with one of my co-workers for probably 2.5 years, but never had the nerve to say anything. Then I met my boyfriend. I have never gotten over that other guy, who has since moved away... and became a US Marshal. I think about him all the time. I honestly think he was my soul mate. But, I love my boyfriend dearly, I would never do anything to hurt that.

Lately I have also had dreams, and this guy is the only one who looks like himself. Everyone else, I know who they are, but they don't look like themselves. In my dreams lately he has been confessing his love for me, like I have had for him. I wake up so confused.

I learned that dreams are a mixture of thoughts, things you see throughout the day, even meaningless things that you might not even realize you see. Dreams are a way for the brain to try to make sense of information that it has taken in during the day. The fact that you are dreaming of this guy is only because you think about him.

we are human and often feel attraction towards other people, but, don't let it affect your marriage. If anything, try to spend more time with your husband, try a new hobby or take a vacation, something that may respark that honeymoon stage. You have to admit, although the honeymoon stage is great, coming home to someone you are completely comfortable with and whom you love, is something worth fighting for.

Answer 5

You have the seven year itch. Don't do anything with the other man because it will be a very disappointing encounter. Just think of him being in your mind and nothing else. If you love your husband, you should try to think about some other man for a while, but only love your husband. In time this phase in your life will all be gone. What you need now is to try new things with your husband.

Answer 6

Not the best person to give advice but here it goes .... You probably feel this way because people tend to always want more out of life rather than just the every day ordinary.It doesnt mean you dont love your husband it just means your just like everyone else HUMAN and we got needs.Not telling you to act on your feelings,but just take everything into consideration before acting on your feelings. Good Luck

Answer 7

You are bored with your marriage. I see nothing wrong with indulging your fantasies but, I think you need to talk to your husband and come up with something between the two of you to perk things up. Maybe some time off, a little trip. Do you go out together often? Start dressing sexy for him. Anything new, different. These little 'crushes' happen every now and then. Just don't act on them.

Answer 8

It's not only you who is in this situation, many married women are but the difference is how a woman can exercise her self-control. Be cautious of that, you are prone to committing adultery. Just don't contemplate on it & avoid temptation. Better tell your husband so he can support you.

Answer 9

The dream means that you are a vibrant,sexually active woman who needs more sex than your husband can provide. I suggest that you act on your feelings and desires and approach this other man and tell him what you need. I would suggest you tell your husband that you want to have sex with this other man but you also want your husband there to enjoy watching you f**k this other man. Who knows you both may enjoy it.

Answer 10

It means he is good looking to you and you want to f*** his brains out. If you want to keep your marriage try to spice up your sex life use a sex therapist for advice if you need to and forget about the other guy. If you are unhappy in your marriage and no longer love your husband then tell him it is over and move on.