After discussing this with my wife she's said that she's too tired to try pleasing me. What should I do?
2006-08-30 17:20:49 · 14 answers · asked by Kevin D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its like this in our house,,,mutual pleasure,,if your wife is not willing to please you find someone who will...and let her know about it...cuting her off may do the trick
2006-08-30 17:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like your wife may not understand how important it is to you. Maybe emphasize it one more time. If that doesn't work, you may have to try a little harder and use more romance. Hopefully, if you sweep her off her feet, she may feel more giving in the bedroom. Just try surprising her with roses, candles, maybe a bath together with a massage and, of course, great mood music. Make sure you try to pick things she likes, instead of you. Make sure she thinks that the entire evening was made to please her. Maybe that will put her in more of a mood to please you. I think it would work on me. I agree with the other peron who said that sex isn't always as important to women. Maybe this will stir things up for her again so she finds it more fun. She just needs to be reminded of how fun it can be.
It seems like a lot of work, but no matter what the result (whether you are pleased that particular evening or not) you will win. If you are not pleased it may continue to frustrate you, but she will be amazed at your efforts, it will only make her appreciate you more.
How long have you been married? Kids?
2006-08-30 17:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by blue_entity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get a hooker she makes the time as long as you got the money.
Seriously tho I'm not sure what kind of schedule your wife has, but maybe if you help her out around the house etc. she wouldn't be so tired all the time. If that doesn't help then maybe giving her a little taste of her own medicine might get her in gear, stop pleasing her all the time tell her it works both ways. Tell her to stop being so selfish if she loved you she would do it occasionally. GL
2006-08-30 17:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her saying "she's too tired to try pleasing" you is a lame response. If she cares about you and your relationship, she should make some effort to respond to your needs. Maybe its the time of day. Try a different time---like in the morning on the weekends, or the afternoon on the weekends. I am assuming she works and that's why she's so tired. It may be that she's a selfish lover. Is this a recent development in your sex life, or was she always like this?
2006-08-30 17:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... maybe you're wanting to do something she is uncomfortable with or finds gross (Some gals don't like dealing with...anal or oral . Especially if they're in that order. >_<).
Part of a good relationship is knowing and respecting each others boundries.
If you have different needs than your wife, perhaps you need to evaluate your relationship and/or work out/comprimise the areas of your love life that you're unhappy with.
Don't just talk about it when you're feeling aroused. Pick a day, set up a nice romantic date with your wife and have a casual friendly chat about it in an environment where you can talk freely. candlelit dinners can be very pursuasive. ^_-
2006-08-30 17:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by blandnamenotworthremembering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was my situation. I told her that I would leave and find someone else and I did. Very happy now, found a real woman. Previous wife now lives alone and complains about it to anyone who will listen. She tells all that she cannot figure out why I left, she knows full well. I went five years without sex with her and she knows that. It was not five years for me though, I found someone who likes sex and gives at least as much she gets. Very imaginative this new wife. I have to run to keep up.
2006-08-30 17:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both of you arrange for a relax travel, like go to resort.
Don't do too many things in the daytime. Create a romantic atmosphere like playing soft music, candlelight dinner, etc.
Women are emotional creature. You satisfy her emotion, its more effective than you saying a thousand words.
2006-08-30 17:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Asia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the joy of marriage! Women fell so justified to cheat if the man can't keep up and satisfy them.. so go elsewhere or try counceling
2006-08-30 17:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by The::Mega 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what makes her tired. Help her out one evening before bed and see if she still says she is tired.
Or tell her that you may need to go elsewhere if she doesn't care enough for you to please you too.
Or maybe its time to go away on a wkend. let her relax and get romantic.
2006-08-30 17:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by fullofsunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you bore her and she just want to role over and go to sleep. She told the world all about it on her blog.
2006-08-30 17:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by dwh320 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women aren't as interested in sex as men. Just be thankful for what you are getting.
2006-08-30 17:23:47 · answer #11 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋