When it only causes pain and heartbreak? When it only makes us cry and lose sleep? When we promised ouself we would build up a wall and not let it happen again and yet we did and now it's not working out. Do you ever feel like just disappearing? Just vanishing? Just taking that last little bit of cash you have and going away and not telling your friends/family where you are? Is there a way to just start over and forget a lost love and a "new" lost love?
2006-08-30 17:18:56 · 35 answers · asked by Phyllobates 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
everything has it's opposite. love is blissfull & wonderful but the opposite is pain and hearbrake. personally i would take the love & the heartbreak than to live alone. "it is better to love and lost than to have never have loved at all"
2006-08-30 17:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry darlin' can't have love without out the pain, it's like having your cake and eat it too. If love were so easy it wouldn't be worth anything, think about it, what defines a relationship? The suffering, then and only then will you see how much that person actually loves you. That's why "walls" don't work not only doesn't that stop them from seeing of you you don't like that also stops you from them as they are. The best way i have found thru this is to accept that with living either way alone or looking for someone else to share a life with comes with it's own pain and suffering which outcome do you want for your life? Cold-comfort i know but life was never meant to be easy
2006-08-30 17:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey we have all been there I am sure.. One thing for sure is you cannot run away from the pain, no matter where you are. Why hurt your friends/family by running off, if you were to do that. It will only create another heartache for you and THEM.. The old song "LOVE HURTS" has alot of truth to it.. Let me be the first to tell ya that.. (Experience) Life goes on. When love is meant to be in your life with someone special you will know it, It will come to you when you least expect it.. Soul Searching is what I did, and I realized if I just don't look so hard, sometimes it was right underneath my nose.. :) take care and God Bless YA!
2006-08-30 17:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sunflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well love isn't pain and heartbreak. and it doesnt make us cry. Love is that feeling you get when you're so happy with a certain person, that makes you want to be withthem every moment, and think of them every moment. Love is amazing. Of course, love is sometimes confused. I think in every relationship there are amazing times, and then BAM love disappears and you try to find it but yuo can't. It sucks to get your heart broken, but i guess you just got to learn from your experiences. Take every relationship you've had and remember the best times. One day you'll be in that relationship where everything is perfect, and then whatever fight you get into will be resolved because you love eachother. Who would want to live a life without love. Despite heartbreak and break-ups there are memorable moments when you've experienced love. Who would want to never feel that feeling?
Good luck, feel better
2006-08-30 17:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by fuakata 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beacause no matter what we do we are still human. Human emotions are weak. We tend to avoid things and and build up a wall but no matter how you avoid it you cant. we are connected to this world by countless cords, we try not to let any of the cords get too strong but once they are cut the can never go back to the way it was.
When you do go off you will feel lonely cuz no human is complete that why we dont want to be alone in darkness and we cant ever do anything just by ourselfs.
love is a one way street, dont hate one cuz the dont love you back, maybe the love you in a totally different way, just be happy and get a new love or love them for both of you.
2006-08-30 17:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Meow~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I think it is plain and simple.....stupidity.
But then we are all human and it is human nature to want to be with someone and feel connected.
I have just disappeared before but I learned the last time that you need to let someone know you are going away, not where, but that way the police won't come looking for you thinking that you have been kidnapped.
Hang in there.
2006-08-30 17:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are gluttons for punishment! The problem with disappearing is that you can't leave behind what you really hope to escape...yourself! You take all your heartaches and baggage with you. If you didn't nobdy would ever be anywhere more than 6 months LOL, there would be some global system of real estate exchange LOL! Hang in there, it really will get better!
2006-08-30 17:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. Lots of pain, people of all kinds carry loads, even if they don't show it. I think the adventure escape avenue is a brave one and it will lead to changes. Change is good. But, there are no guarantees in life. But the risk-taking, adventurous spirit is by far better than the "every form of refuge has its price" philosophy.
2006-08-30 17:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly because it gives us the opportunity to act foolish and get away with it.
Falling in love makes no real sense because modern people have no idea what love means. As an example: People today say things like, " I love bananas, I love crisp celery, I love red shoes, I love my pink dress, I Iove San Francisco, etc.etc." So when a guy says to his girl friend, "I love you" he is putting her on a par with bananas, celery, red shoes, San Francisco, etc. Why is he insulting his girl friend?
Whether we like it or not, we humans think with words, and when we have corrupted our language, then we think with corrupted words. If we think so little of the word "Love" then "falling in love" may be nothing more than an excuse to engage in sexual activities.
2006-08-30 17:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mr.Been there 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We fall in love because it's the most wonderful feeling when it is returned. And we put up with the pain it sometimes causes because it's worth it.
2006-08-30 17:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by silverstarlightfairy99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋