Gud luck with your baby!!!!
well anyways.. here are tips on finding suitable baby sitters as well as establishing a good relationship w/ them.
this could be long, but.. take your time to read... It will surely help...
gud luck again w/ your baby!!
Parents, either couples or single parents, all require time off now and then, time away from their children, to get their second wind, visit with friends, or perhaps take a course that interests them. Parents tend to find their children much more delightful when they have had some time to themselves. However, time away from home is enjoyable only when parents are secure in the knowledge that their children are in good hands.
How do parents go about providing safe services so they can enjoy that important time away from home? First of all, try to avoid feeling as if you arc hiring a substitute parent when you select a baby sitter. No matter how conscientious the sitter, she will not care for the child in precisely the same way as a parent, and it's both unfair and unwise to expect a carbon copy parent. Once convinced that the sitter is a decent, kind individual, then it is best to allow that person to be herself (within the framework of the family's needs and rules) and to react with her own good judgment.
The Interview
Before placing a child in the care of an utter stranger, an interview should take place and references requested and scrutinized. This is the time for direct questions and answers and also an opportunity for the parent's instincts to come into play. Does the prospective caregiver seem to be a warm, flexible human being? Does she have views on discipline that are reasonably close to yours? Does she seem to like children and to be comfortable around them? It may be wise to be somewhat cautious about a prospective sitter who seems overly concerned with neatness and cleanliness, who seems inflexible or depressed.
The interview is the proper time to discuss hourly or evening rates. Does the sitter charge or is the parent willing to pay a higher rate after midnight? This is also the time to settle the matter of transportation. Does the sitter provide her own or does she expect to be picked up and returned home?
It is only fair to give the sitter general information and specific instructions about your child and your home. Be very clear about what you want her to do in your absence. Describe the routines in your home, particularly the ones that involve the child. Do you read him a story before he goes to bed? Do you feel strongly that he should not watch certain violent television programs? Do you have very definite ideas about discipline! A parent has every right to expect the sitter to follow these general guidelines, still leaving plenty of space for fun and initiative and creativity.
Advance Preparation
Prepare a sheet of vital information for your sitter, and leave it in a convenient place such as directly over the telephone. The list should include:
Your name, home address, and phone number. This may seem unnecessary but, in an emergency, sitters have been known to "blank out" while trying to give this critical information over the phone.
The phone numbers of your doctor, the police department, and the fire department.
The name, address, and phone number where you can be reached.
The name and phone number of nearby neighbors to be contacted in an emergency. (This should be cleared with the neighbors in advance.)
As a back-up, the phone number and name of a relative or close friend.
The time you expect to return. If there is any change in plans, and you find you are going to be late, be sure to let the sitter know. There may be people she will need to notify so they won't worry about her.
Active Duty
After the sitter arrives, plan to stay on the premises for at least 15 or 20 minutes. 'Me child should be told in advance that Mother and Father are going out and that "Susie" will stay with him. Even if he initially seems accepting, it is not unusual for a youngster to burst into tears when he realizes his parents are actually going to leave him.
Although his tears may be genuine, they will most likely fade fast once he recognizes the inevitability of his parents' departure and that there is nothing he can do to make them waver. This is especially so, if the sitter is quick with a reassuring statement such as, "You know, when I was your age, I used to cry when my parents went out too. You can make other Suggestions for breaking the ice or staunching the tears. The sitter can tell the child she likes his house-and-why. She can tell the youngster that she knows somebody else with the same name he has, a topic that almost never fails to fascinate a child. Suggestions like these from a parent serve to convince the sitter that you deeply care about the quality of the time she will be spending with your child.
During the interval before leaving home, take time to show the sitter the location of essential things. If you live in an apartment building, point out emergency "its or fire escapes. Leave candies and a flashlight handy in case of a possible power failure. Test the batteries. Explain where to find Band-Aids and review simple home remedies for a bump or a bruise. However, juvenile sitters should not be expected or allowed to give medication to a child.
If the parents are going out for the evening, the sitter should be told what snacks the child is permitted as well as snacks for herself. (if you plan to use the sitter again, be generous with snacks.) If the parents are going out during the day and meals will be involved, appropriate and simple instructions should be given. It's difficult to find one's way in a strange kitchen, so necessary implements should be set out.
Family Policies
Each family and situation is different but there are general rules and procedures that should be covered in any babysitting situation.
Is it okay to use the telephone! Perhaps it would be wise to specify the length of phone calls in case you need or want to reach home,
Is the sitter allowed to invite a friend for company or to work on a homework assignment? Same sex? Different sex? More than one? A group of friends on a baby sitting assignment is seldom a good idea.
What are the rules about answering the door? Certainly a sitter shouldn't let anyone she doesn't know into the apartment or house, no matter who they may claim to be. It's too bad if a good friend or relative is refused admission but actually that's a sign that the sitter is doing her job well.
Leave instructions on how to answer the phone. If you are expecting an important call, describe how you would like it handled, take a message? Call back the following day?
Be sure to reaffirm any important routines and habits that were covered in the interview: What time the child is to go to bed. is a night light turned on; is the door to his room left ajar; does he have special stuffed animals he likes to take to bed, etc.
Does the child have homework! If so, is the sitter willing and/or able to help?
Is the sitter expected to do some simple household chores, such as washing dishes? if so. is extra pay involved?
Jot down any special words the child uses for certain items or functions.
In one baby sitters' manual, the sitter's creed was given; "Keep Them Happy, Keep Them Safe". That, after all, is what babysitting is all about.
2006-08-30 16:40:42
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answered by johnzy_08 3
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ask for as many refrences u need after all it is ur baby go for in between 15-25 year olds to watch the baby or elderly ladies they are usually pretty good to trust with ur child and if its not major let some slide but if u can c a huge problem dont good luck
2006-08-30 23:37:55
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answered by mommyof3 3
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It depends on what you don't like about them. You should NEVER hire someone to watch your kids that you don't fully trust. Make sure that the person that you hire has infant/child CPR/First Aid. If hiring a teen make sure that they have been through some kind of babysitting class, or have references from others that they have babysat for. If you go to www.cragislist.com you can place a free ad with the things that you require in a babysitter, like non-smoker/drinker, or whatever you think is important.
2006-08-30 23:37:35
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answered by Ryan's mom 7
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If you are in a community where you know no one, I would ask for recommendations from neighbors or your husband's coworkers. Otherwise, if there is a local college, call their student employment resources for some names. Longer term, being active in a church will put you in touch with pool of teenagers whose parents you will know, and whose values you know. Always, always check references, and trust your instincts. You might, for the first time, have them come over and keep your baby while you are there doing something like cleaning out a closet, where you are there, but able to watch their interactions with your child.
2006-08-30 23:43:07
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answered by TXChristDem 4
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i wouldn't let anyone but a relative be alone with my child until my child is old enough to talk. having been a babysitter myself in my childhood, i wonder how many kids, like me, were nice and well meaning and didn't have a clue about kids.
Also, because our children were breastfed, they didn't really tolerate us going out much until they were much older. That was okay. It wasn't worth it to make our babies cry just to go out. We put the babies to sleep and had fun at home.
2006-08-31 00:34:33
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answered by cassandra 6
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You should set up a day that a babysitter comes in and watches your child while you are still home. That way you see how well they react to your child. See if they have taken a babysitting class. You should evaluate on how prepared they are. Make sure they have a lot of references and ALL of them check out. Good luck
2006-08-30 23:39:36
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answered by <3 1
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Most would say we lead a boring life, but my wife and I have 4 kidsand we don't trust anyone with them. Too many bad things going on in the world to trust our kids with anyone who doesn't love them as much as I do so I can go out. We only get one shot at these kids. We have plenty of time to continue our alone time when I retire, and my kids are grown, and can take care of themselves. Until then, we go camping together.
2006-08-30 23:43:11
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answered by detecting_it 3
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First, you need to make sure you find someone with a good backround and experience. make sure that you hire someone thats willing to take care of that little kid okay, my little brother is annoying sometimes, and it can frustrate people, some babysitters have killled the baby's before! scary, but yea, ask around and see if the people who've had this person before is a good choice
2006-08-30 23:37:02
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answered by pimp_knuckles 3
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i would recommend maybe someone from your church family. if you have a nursery at your church maybe the nursery attendant. possibly one of the youth at church. or maybe a neighborhood teen. or if you have any co-wokers with kids, ask them if they could recommend a babysitter. they probably have a couple they use regularly and could share! i was a babysitter (still am to a select few) in high school and i appreciated the little bit i made. i think as long as you go for someone 15 or older (unless you know them) you should be fine. as long as they can get ahold of you if anything should go wrong they will be in capable hands!
2006-08-31 01:38:10
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answered by Anonymous
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ask for MANY referrences, and check her out before hand. Have her come to the house while your home and leave her in the room with the baby and leave a video camera on, and then say your leaving, and see how she is before the day comes.
2006-08-30 23:34:51
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answered by Vanessa 1
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