I have my g/f and she lives two hours away and we have been dating for 21/2 years now. I am starting to like another girl but dont wnat to end the relationship I am in now. So my real question is, is it ok to date/get to know the other girl while being the relationship with the other. I dont want to cheat on my cuerrent g/f, but I would like to secure another relationship before I end the one im in. Is this wrong or just natrual. I dont know what to do. Many thanks
2006-08-30 16:08:06 · 15 answers · asked by witfull_sparrow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should be open to your girlfriend and tell her something is not complete or right in your relationship and take sometime away from each other to find yourselves.
2006-08-30 16:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you and your current gf are in an open relationship where both of you are free to date others and have said so then no it's not wrong. However if you are dating her and you guys are exclusive then yes it's wrong. It sounds like you have some codependency issues if you can't end a relationship without having another one on the back burner it's not like a job. You should be ok with being alone and not feel like you have to have someone lined up and ready for your next relationship.
2006-08-30 23:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by ecofriendlygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be really nice since you are being really honest. Now, technically you are not wrong because you are a guy who isn't married and tied down to anybody, but theoretically speaking you are betraying the girlfriend's trust and when you think about it, are you really in love with your current gf? Would you be okay with her "securing" relationships with different people and string you along? Hopefully, you can come to terms with yourself and how you feel about your current gf, then you can be honest and up front with her so you can move on.
2006-08-30 23:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I'm not going to get into the moral arguments that you're going to be inundated with from other posters. What I will say is that you're going to be more lonely if you go ahead and date two women at the same time. If you're with your current gf you're going to mentally be with the new woman who you are starting to have an emotional affair with. When you're with the new woman, you'll be guilt stricken or constantly be thinking of what you're going to have to watch out for so there are no tell-tale signs that you're seeing another person (lipstick on your collar, odd numbers on your cell phone . . . ). So, you're sort of ripping everyone off here, including yourself. You're not giving 100% of yourself to your current gf, you're not giving 100% of yourself to this new woman and you're causing your insides to get all twisted with emotions, lust, love, guilt . . . ugh.
Breaking up is incredibly difficult to do but it also is a great growing experience. You seem compassionate . . . it is time to move on and let your current gf go . . . it is going to be the best for both of you in the long run.
2006-08-30 23:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that would be two timing......there has to be something missing if you're being interested in another girl. If you are planning on getting with the new girl then i suggest you end things with your current girlfriend first. It wouldn't be fair to her and to the new girl...and also, would you like it if you were in your current girlfriends position and she went and started dating someone behind your back?
2006-08-31 11:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by evelyn55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is pursuing with an intent. It is wrong if your thinking of your next girlfriend while you have one on hold. Tell her the truth. It's hard to have a long distant relationship.
2006-08-30 23:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by kim d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your two-timing ways is going to end up with a cold single bed. Your being shady and dishonest. You better hope the ladies don't find out before you make your decision.
2006-08-30 23:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that can be considered cheating. You should break up and then pursue this other girl, if you think she is worth breaking up your other relationship for her then you should be sure she will go out with you if you are single
2006-08-30 23:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by helen b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here's the question:
Would it be okay with YOU if your girlfriend were thinking about another guy and keeping you on the shelf until SHE secures another relationship?
Is that wrong or just natural to you?
2006-08-30 23:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by BigMama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about if your g/f finds another stud, since, after all you're two hours away, because like she doesn't want to be without a guy and wants to have a "soft" landing. Oh, makes you feel like crap and like being used - yup.
You're a cheater and a spineless wimp -
2006-08-30 23:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋