You could sleep with someone else but what if its great, you either have to leave your husband or spend the rest of your life knowing that you could be having better sex.
Stick with you fella. If you want better sex, you need to work something out with him
2006-08-30 15:58:37
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answered by Anonymous
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I was a virgin when I got married. It lasted 15 years and ended in divorce. I was faithful and even to this day have not been with a man in 18 months. I am starting to wonder if I am ever going to have sex again. It is a decision I made not to have pre-marital sex. Even though I am legally divorced with 3 kids, and I am no longer a virgin, I consider that valuable.
You have no idea what kind of regrets you will have if you have an affair just for the sake of finding out how it feels to make it with another guy. Stop worrying about what you don't have or never will have and love your sweetie and be grateful that you have a good man to hold you tight and make love to whenever you want to.
They say the grass is greener on the other side. When you get there, will you be able to get back where you started? Stick with what you have and go have a good roll in the hay with HIM. (That's what fantasies are for!)
2006-08-30 23:40:37
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answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4
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I lost my virginity to my first husband, too. He was the only man I had had sex with for many years. After being married to him for 19 years I had sex with another man. We are now divorced and I married that other man. Before I had been with another man, as far as I knew my first husband was great at everything. I hadn't had anything else to compare it to. With my first marriage I was happy, I was getting everything that I wanted, but I got greedy and thought that there was something better out there and it was better for awhile, but then after the newness wore off I found out that my sex life with my first husband was better than I realized. Now there is no turning back time. I wish I had never strayed from my first husband.
My advice is to tell you that as long as you only have one partner, he will always be your best. Appreciate what you have. The grass may look greener on the other side, but a lot of times it is bitter-sweet.
2006-08-30 23:37:14
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answered by Rondar 2
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There is nothing wrong with having had only one man--your husband. You say you want to know what its like to have sex with another man...but is it worth losing your marriage over? 20 years together is a lot of history. You say you can't imagine going through life wondering what it would be like: THE GRASS IS NOT GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE. What you are contemplating is not worth it. There are a lot of men in their 30's,40's,50's who are no better in bed than when they were in high school. Your not missing anything. Cherish what you have. Its beautiful.
2006-08-30 23:04:54
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answered by Anonymous
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My advice is to not even think about it. If you love your husband and want to keep your marriage going you do not need to know what another man is like. Are you happy with your love life now? Why risk losing what you have? I can assure you that many men out there have no idea how to please a woman. You could be very disappointed and lose the love of your life at the same time. It really isn't worth it.
2006-08-30 23:01:49
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answered by physandchemteach 7
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wow what a bunch of negative responses. You should take a look at your relationship and ask yourself if he would object to experimentation with you outside your marriage (swapping and such) if you don't think he would be receptive to this you should consider an extramarital affair. Just remember the guidelines: don't bring ANYTHING home, don't get emotionally involved and try to make it more than it is, guilt is not acceptable you are not better off sharing to make yourself feel better, and finally remember that it's just sex, fun and all but not the most important thing in the world. Life is too short to make yourself miserable wondering when the solution is at hand.
2006-08-30 23:12:06
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answered by medic 5
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Damn, that's a real difficult question to answer. I guess the best way to answer that is by telling you what happened to a couple that were married for over 25 yrs. They had a picture perfect marriage, at least on the outside... She, like you, had never experienced another man. She started having an affair. She hid it from her husband for over a year. When he found out about the affair, he was devastated. 6months later, he died of what I believe was a broken heart. . Do you want that to happen to you? You have to ask yourself, 'Is it worth it?
2006-08-30 23:07:15
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't be so stupid! Are you seriously considering throwing away 20 wonderful years?? If you stray, you'll live with that guilt for the rest of your life and it's a worse pain than going through life wondering what sex with another man is like.
2006-08-30 22:59:04
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answered by wildgroovymunky 3
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That Sucks, You don't love him enough than I think. Or you would be happy just with him. It not much different with anyone else, Maybe you guys need to spice up your own sexual relationship. Tell him you feel like you need to do this. It would be great to know that you married the man you loved and didn't have sex with anyone but him. I know you seem like you need this, But guys these days SUCK it is so much better to be with someone who JUST LOVES YOU!! Your not missing out, That's what you think, If you cheat on him, then you will miss out on a lot, .....in your head and heart...cause after you do it, YOUR so going to realize it wasn't worth it as all.....If he is a good man that is just getting on your nerves and not exciting enough for you, You help him to help the relationship to be more exciting. please ...Just cause it's 2006 don't mean we have to act like we don't know what to really do, and what is the right, moral thing to do....Please think this whole thing out, ask your self what you could do to fix your feeling, and ask your self (deep inside) what you really are feeling, and what made you feel this way?
2006-08-30 23:05:10
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answered by Sweetie 2
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This is exactly why women should have at least 5 sexual partners before marriage.
I don't know you but I can say with certainty that you're not his only sexual partner, before marriage and after you got married.
Men are encouraged to sow their wild oats whether married or not, while women are looked at as whores for wanting to have sex with someone they are not married/engaged to or in a "committed relationship" with. With the exception of the judgmental Jesus freaks who have deeper issues and predilections women alone are generally viewed as whores if they express the human desire to have sex.
What you are feeling is perfectly natural however I hear sex is not everything in a marriage (but it is a lot). I don't believe in marriage but I am not going to advise you to end yours unless you are experiencing any of the 4 As from/ with your husband
Abuse
Abandonment
Addiction
Adultery.
Try to talk to your man about your boredom and curiosity. He may be one of those men with morals that I've read about.
2006-08-31 21:47:58
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answered by Anonymous
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