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2006-08-30 15:49:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Life is about perspective. The way you look at things is how you perceive them. Also, when you have preconceived notions (your mind is made up without even having the experience yet), it affects your perspective.
Let me give you an example. Let's say that you believed everything I said. There's a room with a door, and I told you to go through it, and there will be several people in it. Then, I told you that no one in that room liked you at all. When you walked in that room you would act a certain way. You would think no one liked you, and everything they did would confirm, to you, that they didn't like you. This is without you having ever talked to them, or even seen them before.
Now, let's say I told you that everyone in that room thought you were the greatest. You believe me, and you walk in the room, and act completely different. Things you took negatively before, you now take positively. You are, basically, a completely different person.
You have to do two things.
One, always assume people like you. They may not necessarily want to hang out, or do stuff with you, but that's not the point. Assume that they like you, and act accordingly. I don't really want to hang out with EVERYONE I like. But, I still like them.
Two, when people bluntly express WORDS (not looks, because those are deceiving) that mean they really do not like you, assume that something is wrong with them that is causing them to be jealous of you, or that they want to knock you down to their level. Once you realize that, tell yourself that you feel sorry for them, but that you are going to move past them. (Of course, if they are being physical with you, you obviously have to notify the proper people). Also, don't tell them you feel sorry for them, just let them move on as well. Let it be a nice little parting of ways.
When you do these two things, you'll find that you are much happier, and that you don't let the negative people affect you. Other people will notice that you are more pleasant to be around (it sucks being around whiney negative people anyhow), and they will probably start to want to be around you more.
2006-08-30 16:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by rod_j_clifton 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to give up.
If you set out to do something, make sure you get it done. Maybe this is not possible 100% of the time, because of circumstances beyond your control, but most of the time it is possible.
If you go into things half-heartedly, then quit half-way through, you will start to feel bad about yourself. Better to be a bit lazy and do less, but really commit to whatever it is you do decide to take on.
This is not always easy, but I think it really works.
You could also try praying to God and asking for help with your self-confidence and esteem. Even if you don't believe in God, the simple act of being clear about what you want and saying it out loud will help concentrate your own resources on the problem.
2006-08-31 00:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by AZNYC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everytime you make a decision for yourself, one that is healthy for you, you build your self esteem...
you can try affirmations, a little bit like Stuart Smalley on SNL saying in the mirror "gosh darn it, people like me".. at first your mind will tell you its stupid, but eventually your mind will start to believe it.. =)
2006-08-30 23:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take part in sports or in group activities.It help you to overcome the social barrier.
Believe in yourself.
You can do it!!!
I believe in you..........
2006-08-30 23:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by SalmanDa Man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋