am I in the wrong?

Question

I know a guy, not really a friend but I've worked with him. His ex wife and I are friends, is it wrong to ask her out?

He is an *** to her at all times, he cheated on her several times, and he has a girlfriend.

oh yeah she has shown interest in me, since they got divorced

read a little closer folks, He is not my friend I just worked with him. No More No Less

I have only helped him at work one time, bailing hay,this is all the better I know him.

Answer 1

Guy rule doesn't apply here since he's not your friend.

It could affect your working relationship, but that may not matter to you.

She's fair game.

Answer 2

Not if she has been an ex wife for at least 3 or 4 months. You don't want to look like you have been waiting at the gate. Since he is not a true friend, there should be not problem with it. You may want to be prepared in case he does ask you what is going on.

Answer 3

Well technically it's not wrong as she is his ex but I'll tell you this, you will definitely be in an awkward positon, especially if you still work with this guy. You should probably give him a heads up only to be on the safe side. Just remember that you don't need his permission to date his ex. You just never know what kind of tricks he might pull.

Answer 4

Yes, it is wrong to ask out any divorced woman, unless she was faithful to her husband and he broke their vows by being unfaithful. A good rule of thumb is to not do it, and the fact that he's your friend shows a lack of class, and you would be playing the role of a fiend (no "r"), not a fRiend.

In other words, it just seems like being an advantage taking opportunist, in my opinion.

Answer 5

You said he wasn't a friend.

I live in small town, and there is always a chance of a guy that works in the same building as me, meeting my ex wife and dating her, or this scenario may have already unfolded.

Part of having an ex wife is coming to terms with the fact that other men are going to date her, and in fact, maybe men that do not know you personally, but know who you are may date her.

How this guy reacts may effect your work relationship, as he may become angry. If it's been quite a while, maybe he won't even care.

Personally, I wouldn't do it, but I don't think you're in the wrong.

Answer 6

if he's a casual aquaintance, they go ahead and ask her out.

The worst that could happen is she would say no.
So why not take a chance. However, if she accepts, just remember to be a gentleman and do not bring up all you know about her former spouse. If you do, it will make you look like you are only interested in her for sex... and that's not good for her
self-esteem.

Answer 7

As long as you follow the "man code", and make sure your buddy knows your intentions, then you aren't doing anything wrong. That way, it will eliminate any rage from him finding out through the grape vine. He doesn't have any claim to her, as an ex; but there could be latent emotions.

Answer 8

Yeah....I think it would be very bad if he finds out and decides to kick your a** and then get u fired. Don't do it. Hear a saying today that goes something lke this "a mature person does the right thing when no one is looking."

Answer 9

If you are not close friends i would say go for it.. after all they are divorced .. if he has shared problems and their life together i would say you are a closer friend than u are saying .. life is short if you care for one another take a chance but don't cross a friend.. Good luck and God bless

Answer 10

no, it's not! go for it! especially, if you have noticed signs that indicate that she's interested in you! Good luck! On the other hand, if you don't feel ccomfortable, ask a common friend of yours to ask this particular guy about the whole situation and if he would mind if his ex goes dating.