I have been with a woman for 1 year now and lately she tells me she is not in the mood for sex and she feels as though i am pressuring her. we have not been together in a month I only see her 2 hours a week maximum as most of her time goes to her kids am I wrong or is it time to move on ps her kids are 20 19 and 14 and they all love me,
2006-08-30 15:35:28 · 13 answers · asked by Thomas W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she also says when i talk to her she does not need to hear my problems as she has enough of her own with the kids going back to school and all ( college) for 2 and high school for 1 I love her so much it hurts and i feel lost i can do without the sex but it would kill me to lose her
2006-08-30 15:46:36 · update #1
I have tried to talk to her about this and she says doing so is only driving her away from me and I should just let her deal with what is going on she tells me it is not me it is her but I am so confused and hurt she says she wants me and she loves me but she is confused about what i dont know her moods changs like the weather one minute happy and loving the next evil and mad
2006-08-30 15:59:50 · update #2
and we are only in our 40s
2006-08-30 16:00:44 · update #3
Well just by what you said I don't think that any of us are in any position to tell you whether it's time to go or not. Circumstances can put a real strain on things and maybe it's just a temporary thing. I will say that I don't think you should just up and leave. Try talking to her about all of this if you havn't already. Not just the sex part, but don't be afraid to include it. About the amount of time you two spend with one another. Any relationship, especially one as important as this partnership (boyfriend/girlfriend husband/wife) needs a good bit of time and attention spent to keep it healthy. If she doesn't understand this, explain it to her. Figure out what to do from there.. I'm sorry to hear that you're in this bad situation.
2006-08-30 15:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well to me it sounds like she has lost a bit of interest. Since you have only been together a year, the loss of interest in sex and the amount of time she is willing to spend with you does not seem to be a great sign. Her children are not that young and so she should be able to spend more time. There are only 2 things I could think of... either 1 she is interested in somebody else or 2 she has a problem (which might not have anything to do with you) that she needs to work out. If this is bothering you, the best thing you could do is talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. This way maybe you can solve the problem and have a chance to save the relationship.
2006-08-30 22:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This maybe a temporary thing. Her kids could be acting out of jealousy. Pressuring her because they feel treaten by the fact moms dating laughing and having fun. A lot of children find it hard to accept their mothers as being women. So they are probaly having one problem after the next to drive you away. If you really like her try to include the kids in some of the fun and maybe then they will back off so you and momma can have some fun.
2006-08-30 22:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, the reason you want to move is sex? to have more sex? well, this does not seem a serious reason for me to do it! On the other hand she might be doing this to convince you to move in with her. If you really love her and care about her and her kids do it. PS: when you only have two hours per week it's not good to spend it all on sex and after all, it's not easy for a woman to have planned sex...it must be spontaneous. Be creative. Talk to her. Listen to her (listen more than talk). Another thing: you haven't seen each other for over a month? ANd she does not want to make love to you? If you have noticed other problems in your realtionship, perhaps she wants to make a serious point here...does she really want to continue with you?
2006-08-30 22:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by alexnadra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your in really different places. I could understand that she needs to be there for the 14 year old, but the other two are alot older and shouldn't be taking all her time. Maybe you need to sit down with her and find out what kind of relationship she is looking for. You might need to move on. After a year together it is certainly worth trying, but you both need to be on the same page...good luck.
2006-08-30 22:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by poodlemama1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what's important to you. Do you want to be with her so much that you could sacrifice your sex life? If she hasn't been "in the mood" for a while, it's probably only going to get worse, not better. It's up to you if you want to stick around and find out what's wrong - or perhaps you feel it might not be worth your time.
2006-08-30 22:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. Sounds like her kids are her priority and should be. The kids' feeling about you and those of their mother are two different issues.
If I were walking in your shoes, my shoes would be walking down a new street where I could find someone who wanted to make me a priority in their life.
2006-08-30 22:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be going though the change of life. Less sex drive. Maybe she feels like you only want her for a bed warmer.
2006-08-30 22:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She essentially let go awhile ago and using the kids as an excuse. It's time to move on if she won't talk about it.
2006-08-30 23:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what your feelings are for her. If you feel you are being neglected and want more attention tell her. If she can't compromise and see if she can find more time for you, then you decided what's best for you. This is my opinion only because I see that you're not married.......
2006-08-30 22:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋