My friend has s situation she needs your answers. This guy has been calling her for a long time and she can't seem to get rid of him. One day he called and in frustration she mentioned he was not a thoughtful person (trying to discourage him from calling). She also mentioned she was out of groceries (meaning she would be getting groceries in a few days). He arrived one evening unannounced with $60 worth of groceries. She hesitated to let him in, but finally did. She hesitated about putting the groceries in the kitchen, letting them sit there for an hour before doing so. They talked for a while then he left. Days later he called again and immediately accused her of using him, taking his groceries and said now she "owes" him. .......The question is: Since she didn't ask for any groceries, is this a gift or should she repay him? She could not return them to him (he lives an hour away) and she didn't want to invite him over to pick them up. What should she do?
2006-08-30 15:32:17 · 7 answers · asked by sophieb 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
get her number changed, DON'T let him in again, and pretty much ignore him. she doesn't owe him anything because she didn't ask for anything and it's not like she wouldn't buy her own groceres soon enough. if he keeps on, call the cops. the guy is a nut and he brought the groceries as a way to try and trap her. she needs to toughen up and tell the bastard to take a hike!
2006-08-30 15:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Obviously she used him. While she should not take his calls or let him in if she does not have any interest in continuing the relationship , it is so obvious she let him in ONLY because he brought groceries and saved her $60. Since it was a gift the only thing she really owes him is an apology for being a selfish b**** who used him. She also needs to make it clear that while she appreciates the gesture she just doesn't have the same feelings for him that he has for her and that it would be best for both of them if the communication stops. She needs to tell him she feels she is unintentionally leading him on and she thinks it all just needs to stop now. As for your friend she needs to admit to herself that what she did was wrong and selfish and that she was using the way he felt about her to get the free groceries. No one made her take them and if she really isn't in to him she shouldn't have let him in and she shouldn't have taken them. She needs to grow up a little and be more responsible for her actions. She can not claim he is stalking her if she is encouraging the behavior by accepting any gift from him.
2006-08-30 15:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the groceries, they were a gift. Get a restraining order, and change the phone number.
2006-08-30 15:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by Dawg Vader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy's a moron. Ignore him. Tell your friend to be up front with him about not wanting anything to do with him. If he's got her on his mind, the only way to get rid of him is to break his heart. Its the truth. As for the "owe's him" part, that just shows what kind of immature dick he is. She doesn't owe him jack s**t.
2006-08-30 15:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by valoriousblue777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's a gift. can you say restraining order?unlisted phone number ? *69? call blocking? Stalker?
freak magnet?
2006-08-30 15:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by CWB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uninvited, unannounced, groceries????? owes him???
imagine what he would expect if she went out with him... what a freak.
2006-08-30 15:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by hope v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to come and collect his gift then leave her alone for good.
2006-08-30 18:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋