They cheat, They B+M at length, but they never leave, never change their lives for the better-- are so many people really such cowards- or are they really so fond of their cars and houses that they will trade their lives for them? Are YOU part of the herd???- BAAAAH
2006-08-30 15:30:58 · 19 answers · asked by upsuckit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
comfort and kids- sad-as if kids wouldn't rather come from a broken home than live in one- be proud "hero"- you are showing your kids how to live like a coward and how to have a shitty relationship- I sure your kids will thank you for you example
2006-08-30 15:42:29 · update #1
For financial reasons. Fear of being single again. Kids. The category I think a lot of people fall under is being 'comfortable' though. I think that's one of the big reasons people won't leave a relationship even though they wouldn't admit to it very often. Fact of the matter is I think some people throw in the towel way too quick while others are too stupid to realize that it's over and leave. Or too stupid to leave once they realize it's over. It's all one great big mess.
2006-08-30 15:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 4 1/2 years I was 18, got beaten up, lost two children, got cheated on, Worked two jobs, and FINALLY i left him. Now I am married with 3 kids and on some day the relationship between my man and I sucks. But I have got 3 beautiful children that deserve the best. And since I stay at home. with two of them the other is in Kindergarten, I can not find a babysitter I can afford so i have to stay home. And their are choices that need to be made that will affect not only you but your children., And you know what my kids come FIRST. So if my relationship is in one of those sucky days the I thinks about things look into my kids eyes and try my hardest to make it work. And until I can not do that anymore. I will continue to try and try to the very end. THe vows are TILL DEATH DO US PART. Not TILL THE SUCKY DAY COMES DO YOU PART> Now if cheating is involved, beatings or abuse then I AM OUT NO MATTER WHAT>..
2006-08-30 22:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to burst you bubble but I left two bad marriages. In the first I was married 20 years. He cheated on me for two. I couldn't take it so I divorced him. I lost my way of life. I had to find a full time job, but still could not make the house payment and car payment. I sold the house and moved the kids into a rental 1/2 the size of our other house. Slowly over the years I was able to pay off bills and get a nice home.
The 2nd marriage should not have happened. He caught me at a weak moment. It lasted 6 years until I could take it no more and divorced him. He had no interest in me or sex. He was looking for a free ride. He quit his job and got disability, then did nothing but watch TV for years. Funny, now he is on his own he was able to paint a storage shed all by himself!
I am not whining about my life. I am the one to blame for bad choices. I just wanted you to know that sometimes people realize that being on their own is a lot better than being in a bad marriage.
2006-08-30 22:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has a lot to due with not wanting to take a risk. Yes the relationship sucks, but at least you know what to expect and have a certain comfort level. People fear change and the unknown. That's the best I can figure anyway, I still don't get why women/men stay in abusive relationships and even defend the abusers behavior. Maybe it is low self worth.
2006-08-30 22:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid I'm one of these people, but I am not a coward or too overwhelmed in what i have and wish not to give it up....Unfortunately there are other reasons, such us your kids, threats by your husband that if you leave him he will track you down and kill you, society and community pressure, religious reasons.....Its not always black and white....you build up the courage and strength to get up and leave and then something happens and your back to square one again....Don't condemn us, people like us are already cursed and living in hell everyday of our lives, we don't need people like you calling us cowards. I hope to god you never have to endeavour such a life, because you don't really want to find out what its really like!!!
2006-08-30 22:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only it were so black and white. Here's an example: man and woman meet and get married. Everything seems wonderful-at first. Over time he starts to degrade her, slowly reducing her self confidence until he has her believing she can do no better than him. Why would she leave if she's worth nothing? If she believes that she deserves the treatment she's getting? It's not always about courage and monetary items. By the way, this situation can reverse to the woman degrading the man. It works both ways.
2006-08-30 22:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by Raggedy Ann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because the court are bias towards fathers and it took me awhile to say screw it I would rather be happy and have my child see me happy than to stay in a dysfunctional marriage. It makes you think how many kids get the shaft staying in dysfunctional marriages.
2006-08-31 12:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u talking from your own experiences? Or r u mouthing off? It's so easy to be judgemental and critical of others, when your looking in from the outside. Maybe you should take stock of your own life and fix what is making you so unhappy and jaded.
2006-08-30 22:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids will not respect such a parent and will not pity them if they are not happy.
2006-08-31 05:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you to judge? Many women have children and no place to go. They have no marketable skills to find work. What are they supposed to do? Tell me smarty! Easy for you to say. You are arrogant and you don't know what you are talking about. I wonder what kind of relationship you have. Probably none.
2006-08-30 22:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋