when your husband deletes and change his password to his email account so you cant see it.what should u think?

Question

for example my space, too many thing going on cyberspace. should i worry that my husband talks to all other females on here in a flirtatious way. should i worry that there is some chance that there will be some kind of infidelity? or should i not worry and just move on like everything is cool?

we had agreed that we can go on each others account on the fact that he thought i was doing something on my there too, which there wasnt, but when i went on his it was something else. he says he wants us to both trust each other and dont have to get on each others account. yeah he says that now since he know that i wasnt doing anything but what i found out what was something else. I feel so confused and i jsut dont know where this relationship is going, after an 11 yrs marriage i just dont know where to go from here?

Answer 1

If he's not one to cheat, then I don't think you should worry about what he does online. Internet communities, like myspace, don't promote cheating, they just make it easier. If you think his loyalty is less than solid, then start to worry. Talk to him about it. Bring it up casually even. "So why did you change your name and password?" With the write tone it can be an inquisition and not an accusation. I couldn't stand to be with someone that I thought was cheating all the time and just the same I couldn't stand to be with someone who thought I was cheating all the time, so don't scare him away with your insecurities. Don't get me wrong, I'm not telling you to be oblivious to what he does, I'm just saying don't push him away.

Answer 2

Many people change their passwords for different reasons. Look beyond his internet use...is he going out more without you? Does he come home later than normal? Anything abnormal about his schedule lately?? The internet is usually the breeding ground for infidelity, but highly unlikely that he would act on his impulses if tempted. I'm not sure what your relationship is, how you act...how he acts...what the circumstances are in your relationship so this one is difficult to answer.

Answer 3

It means that your are intruding on his privacy, that you are a snoop, and that you should mind your own business. Internet infidelity can always occur, but if you feel that the signs are negative, you need to open your eyes to see if there are other problems between you and your husband. It can'tjust be the internet. His actions will lead you to the truth, whether it is because you are a snoop, or that he really has something to hide.

Answer 4

Yes, I think it's a problem and I do think flirting with other women on line is cheating of a sort - it's sharing a part of himself that should be reserved only for you. It doesn't necessarily mean that it will lead to a physical affair, he may not have the guts to go through with it, but it is a part of his life that he obviously wants to keep separate from you. I would let him know how it makes you feel and see how he reacts.

Answer 5

Everybody talks to people on here guys and girls having a computer now is like reading the news paper or on the phone.Everybody needs space and privacy,until you catch something going on don't worry to much, most on here is fun and games.

Answer 6

If my husband did this, I would not be too concerned. Perhaps there are some things that he wants to keep private. Everyone is entitled to that. However, I might casually bring it up in conversation and ask him why, without making too much of a fuss about it.

Answer 7

If he's been open with you about it from the beginning, then there might be reason to be a bit suspicious. BUT, if you spied on him and got the password that way, that shows a great deal of infidelity on *your* part.

Answer 8

If he had nothing to hide, he would not do this. I had the same situation and when I figured out his password boy was I shocked. A married man has no right to keep a secret online life.

Answer 9

i know you love your husband sit him right down and have a serious talk with him and ask him why he change his password to his email account and if he don't have anything to hide then give it to you there should be no secrects between husbands and wife unless one is hiding something good luck

Answer 10

i wouldn't jump to conclusions. actually experts tell people to change your passwords regularly just b/c there are so many hackers around. don't accuse him of anything until you have pure evidence. just watch for irregular things like staying on the computer for longer than normal or all night. or choosing the computer instead of eating dinner.