we have our habbits that make us must find our wives virgien , other wise I do not care that she is virgine or not but she told me that she didn't have sex before me ( I think she is laying ) so thats why i want to divorce her ( by the way I don't care that she is virgine or nt just because I love her but our habbits is difrnite)
2006-08-30 15:10:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let me explain something to you. some people have strong beliefs on marrying a VIRGIN because religion,but if that was the case i wouldn't be married to my husband.i too have a very strong criticism on having sex before marriage but i loved (and still do love)my husband and i didn't blame him for what he did in the past.i was a virgin when i met him(hubby) and he had previous women before me. trust me it made me sick to death because he had sex with other people before me.it took me so long to get over that point because i felt like everybody that he had scewed i scewed because i too was having sex with him.i learned to forget and forgive him because he was honest to me about what he had did.to me it's the past so i'm gonna let that go,but in your situation she shouldn't have lied to you about something that personal.so i would say LEAVE HER A**.and when you tell her your leaving(or who ever is leaving)that you don't need to be lied to and gonna find someone who is truthful to you.that will teach her to stop damn lying so much :-)
2006-08-30 15:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Meow4Moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the first time I've heard of this one, and it is strange. I have always interpreted scriptures as meaning the only valid reason to get a divorce is if your spouse is unfaithful, but that, presumably was AFTER you're married.
My feelings are that this was a terrible dishonesty on her part and she should apologize for it. How can a relationship be based upon trust, otherwise?
I think that you should make every effort to put this behind you and NOT seek a divorce. Be a man and not a baby, or someone who is rigid or overly zealous in his religion. Understand that women can be mischievous or prone to not tell the truth about some things.
I must admit that I don't appreciate people who lie about anything, but deal with it, and keep your marriage going. That would be my advice.
AND NEVER MIND THESE LIBERALS who are cursing you here. You have expressed a valid and legtimate concern and I assure you that most of them are into having as much sex with as many as they can, are into oral sex or whatever, and don't understand much beyond what feels good.
2006-08-30 22:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are you? I I think this is kind of stupid cause just because she is not a virgin....doesn't mean you have to divorce her....you will be very lucky in this damn age to find a virgin. They are very hard to come by unless they are under age today. I think if you really love her you will look pass her not being a virgin. If you married her then you are in it for life if you really love her. Not unless you don't love her and you have found someone else. But again I would look pass her not being a virgin if she really isn't. Good luck.
2006-08-30 22:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by socuteandsexy30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not habits, they are ridiculous rules. Are you virgin?
If you want to make a good life with her then do. You must drop this God playing, where you decide if she is lying. That is not your place. The one God that we all believe in says to be kind and loving, not looking for blame or fault. Love on, live on, bring joy and happiness to her always and she will to you. Forget the rules that you call habit. Live your life and LOVE.
2006-08-30 22:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by mspriveye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should divorce you for spellin so bad... i guess this would be called irreconcilable differences? well if you love her, dont divorce her. you say your habits are different, but opposites attract man. she is opposite of you, you guys have nothing in common, which means shes everything youre not, which means she completes you. love is hard to come by, dont mess it up. go to counseling, talk to her, do whatever you need to do, but before you divorce, at least try. you never know what you have until it is gone, think about it twice man.
2006-08-30 22:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you didn't want to get married you should not have. Taking those vows is SERIOUS just as serious as your Religion. You need to cut it out and either have a great marriage or just get a divorced based on the fact that your an idiot.....
2006-08-30 22:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprise surprise most Arab girl's from Saudi Arabia fly to London to get operation done in Harley Street medical clinic to pretend they are virgins. The get their Hymen done.
2006-08-30 22:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, get over it! Who cares what she did before she met you? She loves you and you love her so stop the divorce talk.
2006-08-30 22:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by Robin N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's a virgien/virgine?
2006-08-30 22:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by QuackJak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her and yourself and if you can not handle that then you will have to deal with it but communication is very important and being honest is the best policy.
2006-08-30 22:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋