my son just passed away on march of this year and his bday is coming up in November. what can we do as a memorial for his bday, because we still are thankful god gave us a chance to meet him.
2006-08-30 15:07:51 · 9 answers · asked by phoenixgirl21 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
he's not buried. he's still home with us. and we do rememberance on a daily basis for him. we just want to do somethingEXTRA EXTRA SPECIAL. because the other option was to stay at home with the blinds closed and sulk away from everyone,we don't hink that one would be good for our health anyhow.
2006-08-30 15:27:05 · update #1
Oh, honey. I am soooooooo sorry for your loss.
No one can answer this for you, hon. This is your own personal choice; you, as his mother, knew him best. Do what you believe will make him happy (he's still with you, ya know! :)!) and what will help alleviate your - what must be enormous - grief. (He'd want THAT, too!) ..... Good luck, hon! My prayers are with you & yours .....
2006-08-30 15:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by vernin822 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My prayers are with you and your family, i'm so sorry. while i can't even begin to relate to what you are going through my thoughts would be to maybe submit a birthday wish with a photo to your local paper's announcement section, Im sure everyone who sees it will be sending their thoughts and best wishes to your family (spiritually). My other thought would be to honor your son by spending the day doing the things he enjoyed. I know he was young but Im sure he had his own special routine, things he preferred to watch on TV or music to listen to, certain foods that he liked to eat...you could spend a little time in this way to connect with him, and see the world through a child's eyes. Good Luck, keep your chin up.
2006-08-30 15:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by citygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my grandma's birthday we usually send flowers to the grave or go visit in person if possible. The first year after it happened we had a family dinner. It was a way to grieve together and yet celebrate the family that she helped to create and care for.
2006-08-30 15:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your loss.
Did he like going to the zoo? Did he have a favorite animal? If so, give the zoo a donation to care for that animal each bday anniversary.
2006-08-30 15:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by SPLATT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. Create a memorial and have a reveal ceremony for it. You could plant a tree or create a small prayer or meditation garden in his name so you and your family can have a peaceful place to go (in lieu of a gravesite) to feel closer to him or go and remember him at special times. My uncle helped create a prayer garden in his community to honor people who have passed away and its a really nice place. But you could have it in your backyard.
2006-08-30 15:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by Annieo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have a theme, and that would be little angels. With angel decorations. I'm sorry for your loss, but am glad you know that it is not a total loss but just a veil that separates us, for a little while.
Here is a link to a site to explore that a lady has with lots of pics of angels, and some music to accompany them:
http://jandingo.com/
2006-08-30 15:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by mary_n_the_lamb 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go visit his grave-do something he enjoyed. i too experienced the loss of a child it is a hard thing to deal with. i know this is something you have heard a million time but i am sorry you had to go through this. no mother should have to bury their child
2006-08-30 15:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by cwgrlmeiniowa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you did something that he used to like, whatever that is - watching Elmo, reading kids books, not eating baby food :) - that would probably be the best way.
2006-08-30 15:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by AGNW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm very sorry for your loss. I'm sure he was adorable. Maybe you can hold a prayer service in his name, whichever religion you maybe.
2006-08-30 15:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by 123456 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋